After the fall of couse was the recovery at a rehab center for about two months in patient, then about 4 months outpaitient rehab 5 days a week. That said, it was obvious she would have some depression and was on meds for it then. The therapists would not say it would stay the same, get better or get worse.
Does she know this is going on? No she thinks I am perfectly happy with her at my side every waking minute I am avaliable. There are a few activities that I participate in outside of work that she stays away from. If I would tell her I wanted to go to the hardware store, and wanted to go alone she sould not understand. When I do take her she asks tons of questions, why did you buy that screwdriver, why didn't you park in the other parking spot, you have what you came for why are you looking at this stuff, what do you call that thing, OH look a trinket, I love that trinket, can't I just get it? Can we go to the fabric store after this?
Her mental capabilities are about as a 12 year old or less on some things. Aphasia, she knows what things are but canot name them so I spend a lot of time trying to coax out of her more desriptions of what she is trying to explain. She is good at math, good (but slow) at repetetive things.
We have a 19 year old girl. My wife remebers the better times when the girl was about 12 when they were best buds. She doesn't remember the last few years where the typical mother daughter relationships start to erode. So when the two get together, she does't always cope. The 19 year old lacks the maturity and patience to moderate her tones when dealing with the frustration of helping her mother deal with the confusion. If Mom is not included in a conversation it frustrates her and she feels left out worthless, when the in the real case the daughter is trying to avoid a hard conversation explaining everything that is going on.
I have a neice that is downs syndrome, she is happy as can be because she never knew any different, my wife however remembers that whe had great capabilities to function in a world that is not real patient.
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