50 Year annivsity OF MY Dad's Death

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   Posted 12/3/2007 6:49 PM (GMT -6)   
My name is Heather
My Dad died on Jan 14,1957 and his birthday was on Christmas and I still grief alot now I make my Mom Lauren Mad at me and I have a hard time doing his birthday wihich is christmas day. I can talk to my brother Steve. but I still do griefing alot even now can any body help me


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Post Edited By Moderator (ShynSassy) : 12/4/2007 5:09:33 AM (GMT-7)

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   Posted 12/3/2007 7:56 PM (GMT -6)   
Welcome Heather to HW
How old were you at the time of your dad's death??

IMHO..........I believe that you need to talk to a profesional ....grief cousellor as this is a long time and yes I do know it pains and hurts
I have lost 2 hubby's on in 1979 and one I was separated from  just about 4 yrs go
I also lost a son at the age of 6 yrs so I do know Death ........and the Pain .........

Mom passed away the same day I had buried my sweatheart and first hubby ............March 20th..........

Was there unfinished business with your dad that keeps this going and gets your Mom upset??

It had taken me some time and this my sound crude or wrong to you BUT now I celebrate their lives I had with them .........it is so much easier to deal with all the pain and hades that comes from loved ones dying ,...........IMHO

I do hope you will look into some counselling...............it sounds like you do need to be proactive in finding a way to deal with this .........

Take care and let us know how you are doing..........LYN

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   Posted 12/3/2007 8:14 PM (GMT -6)   
I was 11 years old and My Brother Steve was 8 and My Sister was 5 no I'm sorry what i mean about my Mom getting mad is she hates me griefing about my Dad all of the time so i try not to do it but i just get so tired and so sad that she gets so mad at me she thinks i'm doing this on pupose
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   Posted 12/4/2007 12:08 AM (GMT -6)   

I just wanted to say a word or two. My mother passed away over 18 years ago. I have been having a very hard time dealing with it. I lived in another state when she died. I moved back to her state (where I was raised) in 2000. Even though I had a terrible time when she died, since I have moved back here, I find myself grieving more. I have dreams that are so vivid that I usually wake up crying.

I finally have a new therapist, and I plan on talking with her about all this. I have no one who understands why it is still so painful for me. I have a sister who thinks it is because I wasn't here for her while she was so sick (she had breast cancer). I was then married to an abusive man, who would not allow me much time with family and friends.

I write poetry; and since I do, I am able to write poems about how I feel about her death, about what she meant to me, and how much I look forward to seeing her again one day. This is the only thing that seems to help me, besides prayer.

I certainly hope you will get some help to get through this. Sometimes, I feel I will never be the same. I will be praying for you!

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   Posted 12/4/2007 7:18 AM (GMT -6)   
Yes finally in 1961 My mom married a Man named Jason Jr he was nice and all he did try to help me and he told me that it is ok to let it all out and he told me that your Mom needs to deal with it and help me with it. then in 1969 they got a divorced from each other they also had a child name Sam together his my half-Brother. But i don't talk to him much but i sometimes think maybe i am griefing to much see we live in Homblyhills CA My Dad  He died at home there in there bed and our Mom decided to move us children to New York City NY. and I'm the oldest of my family. But me and My Mom was very close till he died i was also very close to my Dad to till he died. But i don't wnat my Brother Steve to get upset.

Bogie Bogart

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