Posted 12/4/2007 7:54 AM (GMT -7)
If you have a spouse with depression - please step right up and tell me how YOU cope?
How do YOU deal with the feelings of anger, lonliness and helplessness?
What do you do for YOU?
I'm rather new to this. DH has had periods of being "down" before but in late summer it really started spiraling deeply downward. He was close to suicidal. He didn't need much in the way of convincing to seek help - he eventually did sometime in September.
The thing is, he won't seek it from a mental health professional. He gets his primary care doctor (internal medicine) to prescribe some meds and calls it a day. He'll take them untile he "feels better" and then weans himself off. No counseling. Of course he's not really BETTER is he?
And if the side effects of the medication are troubling, he'll simply wean off them. And that's where we are. He didn't like being drowsy all the time so he stopped one medication. He didn't like some other side effect so he has cut back on medication number two.
All those things are problems in and of themselves, but nothing that I can "help" ya know? I talk, I offer to go to appointments, counseling, anything. He doesn't want to.
So I act as a single parent. I care for the entire household and children with close to no help or relief on a day to day basis (children are home full-time). I don't want to bring up regular every day issues (the lighting fixture doesn't work, the car needs work, money is tight) for fear of setting him in a nose dive down again. And intimacy has been nonexistent for going on 4 months.
So ladies and gents, how do YOU get through it? What tips and tricks do you recommend for keeping your own sanity while supporting your spouse? I'm feeling close to the edge and want to back up (and not to get running room to jump!)
Your comments are greatly appreciated