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   Posted 12/4/2007 1:33 PM (GMT -6)   

Well it’s a long story and idk where to start. My mom and I moved out of his house 2 to 3 years ago. Since then we have moved around a bit but it’s been better then living with him. he is also bipolar(sp?) in other words he has something wrong in his head that makes him kind of crazy hard to explain. But mom says he’s doing "better" well since we have been in the place when we are now which we have been in for almost a year I have found this guy who I have fallen in love with. We have been off and on for a year and now we have been going strong for 2 and half months. Well mom says were moving back in with dad. Ill be moving back in on the 15 of dec. we have already stated moving. Well that means moving away from my friends and boy friend which sucks. That’s problem one. Problem 2 is with my boyfriend. Me and him fight a lot. He has cheated on every girl he’s been with. But he’s not that bad of a guy he just comes from a really bad home life. But im always scared he will cheat or do something to hurt me it’s hard to explain. Problem 3. Im trying to figure out a way to help my boyfriend. He had 2 older brothers who moved out and have lives and 2 younger brothers the older ones are half brothers. the Jason who is 2 years younger is his real brother then there’s a half brother who’s like 5 the youngest is his step dads son so he is always treated best and gets away with every thing. Jason is treated ok. No one pays attention to him he can stay out and never go home for days and no one cares. He stays with me and his bro at my house they basically lived there till recently. But jimmy he never lives there hasn’t for 3 months. The only time mom cared where he was when she needs him to clean watch little bros cook. Does the youngest home work. There just were a lot of problems. well this last time step dad hit him he ran away and mom called him in as a run away like she really cared but he had court  cases for some stuff he did and she was scarred he wouldn’t show which meant she would go to jail. So she got him back and had his real dad come and get him. They said he was failing 4 classes lived with me. and that we were having sex. And all this other stuff that was true but still he did them all as a cry for help and cause he wanted ppl to care. him and his bro Jason call my mom and Jason calls me sis and its like were a little family but now that dad has him I never get to see him. I thought him living with his real dad would be good but his real dad is really crazy he is stuck in the army days and lies and he’s a big problem and jimmy knows but tries to hide it I just feel like I need to help and don’t know how. He’s a hard person to talk to. He’s never really open up to ppl no more because ppl turn there backs and leave him so he keeps it to him self and hides it and I want to help. Well I have more problems but heres a start. And oh I have depression. Im a messed up kid hard to explain but will soon.


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Post Edited By Moderator (djdaz_1985) : 12/5/2007 4:52:50 AM (GMT-7)

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   Posted 12/4/2007 6:34 PM (GMT -6)   

Hello and Welcome to Healing Well.  this is Kitt.  You have written alot of info here and it is a bit hard to follow.

I just wanted to welcome you and assure you that you will hear from the moderators of this forum and they are vey wise. I think perhaps concentrating on your personal issues may be the best way to offer you help. 

Know we care and we will try to help you.



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   Posted 12/4/2007 6:58 PM (GMT -6)   
I also wanted to welcome you to HealingWell.  You did not mention your age.  I agree with Kitt that you need to focus on your own issues.  If you are suffering from depression as you mentioned and still young enough to be living at home with your mother, you are probably not able to take on all the issues of your boyfriend's household.  It does sound like they have a lot going on.  I am not a medical professional, just someone trying to help you.  Are you on medication for your depression?  If not, does your mother know you are suffering from depression?  If she doesn't, she needs to know so she can get you the help you need.
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   Posted 12/4/2007 8:31 PM (GMT -6)   
Carla is so right. Alone, you need to focus on yourself right now and deal with your own issues. It sounds like your bf has a lot to deal with but he can only get help if he wants it. And then he has to be the one to work on himself.

You sound very young and it sounds like you have a lot of issues of your own. Are you able to talk openly to you mom? You need to let her know how you feel about your father. But I also think it would be a good idea if you got counseling. You need to have somebody that you can be open and honest with.

I am sure there will be help here for you. Some good advise on how to handle your situation.

Remember that we are here for you and want to help you.

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   Posted 12/5/2007 7:35 AM (GMT -6) try to focus on your own issues and let all of them find their may sound gruff but sometimes " tough LOVE" is the only way to help ppl .....IMHO........

YOu should seek therapy or counselling as well for your self and have a good life to look forward too hun not all this Crud you are living or have lived in........

I do agree you sound young and with that iF its true you have so much to look forward too in your life

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   Posted 12/6/2007 6:51 AM (GMT -6)   

I agree with Lyn. I know that tough love is difficukt sometimes but sometimes it is the only way to be. Sometimes we need to take some time out for ourselves and I think that is what you should be doing now.

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   Posted 12/6/2007 1:58 PM (GMT -6)   
i agree with all of u. NOT! i need to help him not just me

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   Posted 12/6/2007 3:13 PM (GMT -6)   
We all reached out to you and gave you our honest opinion. You treat it like it is some kind of joke. Do you really want our help or not? You can't help others until you get your head straight. Right now it is clouded with infactuation for Jimmy. What does he give to you? What is it that you really want to hear? We are doing the best that we can to help you.

You need to see a therapist, you said you are depressed. And until you get the help that you need, you aren't capable of helping others.

We want to be here for you, so please be honest with us. Tell us about your other problems that you didn't go into. Please don't disregard our honest opinions of suggestions if you really want help.

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   Posted 12/8/2007 7:00 AM (GMT -6)   

Tell us what you think needs to be done to help you and your family?

We will be here for you as much as we can. I know that right now the most important things in your life are your friends... we just want you to be very careful and watch out for yourself.
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