Hi grace, I am so sorry your mom is sick. I think one thing you said in your post is important....your mom is "suffering", I imagine it is really difficult to relate to how she is feeling physically and even mentally. That in no way takes away from how your feeling. Your feelings are very much valid. I wonder if you have sat down with your mom and just talked to her about how your feeling.
I know that when your physically ill it is extremely difficult to get motivated and want to do certain activities. Perhaps you and your mom can come up with things to do together that don't disturb her illness. I don't have children so I feel like I shouldn't respond here but, I grew up with a mom who had depression (still does) and she very much disconnected from my brother and I. If you feel that things in your relationship has changed or your wanting more attention from her then I really do think calmly discussing this with her would help. Chances are she doesn't realize your feeling this way.
I am sure more people will give you some suggestions also. Let us know how it goes....
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