Cymbalta is not working

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Date Joined Dec 2007
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   Posted 12/16/2007 1:34 PM (GMT -6)   
I am so happy that Cymbalta is working for all of you. However, my husband is on it and it is not working for him. He has been on many other anti-depressants that have not worked either.
He is disabled (about 5 years) due to a back injury so his depression is also due to that. He has chronic pain.
He withdrawals from me when I try to help him and spends weeks (sometimes 1 month) in bed 24 hours a day. He just gets up to take his meds and smoke.
I feel we may be headed for a divorce.
Any suggestions??

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   Posted 12/16/2007 1:50 PM (GMT -6)   


Hello and welcome to Healing Well and the Depression Forum. You will meet many wonderful and caring members here who know where your coming from and what your going through.

You did not mention what dose of Cymbalta your husband is on?  Also does his Physician know he spends all his time in bed.  IMHO your husband is in serious trouble if he is so depressed that he stays in bed 24 hours a day for a month.

Does he get up to eat, bathe or what does he do in bed that long?

I understand how frustrated you must be and hope you see a therapist or someone just for you. 

Please keep posting but perhaps a bit more detail might help in providing you with advice. :)

Again a warm welcome.


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   Posted 12/16/2007 2:05 PM (GMT -6)   
He is on 120 milligrams of Cymbalta a day. He sleeps about 18 hours a day and told the doctor he cannot sleep at night so they put him on Ambien. Now he sleeps about 20+ hours a day. The same doctor prescribed both meds.
He goes to the VA (Veterns Administration) and the doctors don't really seem to care. I've mentioned this to them and faxed all of his doctors a letter regarding his lack of interest in everything.
I don't know what IMHO means.
He usually has a piece of toast or so all day. In fact when he was in bed Sept.21-Oct.4 he lost 14 lbs. He was in bed again Oct.21-Nov.17. He will bathe about once a week unless he needs to go to the doctors.
He usually has the tv on but is sleeping.
He does not allow me to wash the bedding as he stays in all day.
I feel very lonely and have tried explaining this to him. I have tried talking to him about getting help. With all the meds he is on he just doesn't / can't care.
I've called his doctors, nurses who deal with this type of problem, and crises intervention. No one will do anything unless he is a physical harm to himself or about mentally!!!!!

getting by
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   Posted 12/16/2007 11:33 PM (GMT -6)   
You really need help with this matter. Is there anybody that you can talk to? This alone makes you need some therapy so you can deal with it. Theyb might tell you to open the blinds and strip the bed with him in it. I sleep a lot when I get depressed but this is too much stress for you. I have fibro so I spent two years in bed. I had to get well before I could get out of that pattern. He may need a push. But I would talk to somebody first, you need to have a life, not spend yours watching him regress. I know that you love him, but he needs some sunshine, and so do you.
I hope that this helped some,
getting by
fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, clinically depressed and allergies

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   Posted 12/18/2007 8:44 PM (GMT -6)   
I've recently posted here so I will not repeat myself. Although I am wondering (and I know that people cannot be clumped together) if people who are bi-polar, which I believe he is, actually go through with threats.
I'm asking because he keeps talking divorce. I still love him, however, he has pushed me away so many times. I do not know how much more I can take. He has distanced himself from my family and his. He is not welcome at any house for Christmas.
He blames me but I do not take it personally.
I was just wondering if they tend to follow through with things.

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Date Joined Dec 2005
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   Posted 12/18/2007 9:05 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Rose
My son is bipolar,and has made all kinds of crazy threats,that he has not went through with..
I need to explain a little bit about depression... when we are at our lowest,we tend to take it out on the ones we love. We push them away,I think it is because we do not think that we deserve them,we feel like we are not good is a very sad and frustrating situation for everyone involved.
I really think that you need to contact his doctor and try to get him back in asap..
I am including some info that I have found on the net...

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Have been med free for 2 years now.

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