I am getting help...

Did counseling help you when you were living with a depressed family member?
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no - 0.0%
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Date Joined Dec 2007
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   Posted 12/19/2007 4:11 PM (GMT -6)   
I've finally realized that I can do nothing more for my husband. I now have to take care of myself and get my life back.
I called one of his doctors and told them that my husband tried to get Percoset from another doctor. The doctor refused telling him that Percoset is a worker's comp problem not the VAs. They are putting that in his file.
As I write this my husband is still in bed. Of course he can get up to take his meds and for his 1 piece of toast which he ate about 15 mins ago. He will have nothing now for the rest of the day.
I go the day after Christmas to talk. If anything happens (I feel we are headed for divorce) I want it proven that I tried to help.
He has called 911 on me 3 times. He said I was mean to him. The third time they came he cursed at them. When the officer turned around and asked him what he said he repeated it. The officer then had me talk to him outside.
Since this was the third time he called (for no apparent good reason) they should have taken him away...especially since when we were outside the first question the officer asked was if he was ever in a mental institution. What does this tell you????
Hopefully this will be beneficial as he is pulling me down. He either does not talk to me or he's cursing at me.
Hope all goes well.

getting by
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Date Joined Sep 2007
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   Posted 12/19/2007 5:01 PM (GMT -6)   
I am glad that you are taking steps in this matter. Who are you going to see? I read your post twice and unless I missed something, I don't know who you are seeing the day after Christmas.
Either way, I think this will hopefully help him too. You cannot go on like this anymore and it is time for him to get out of that bed. I know how it feels to get sucked into the bed and you want out, but you are just to exhausted mentally and physically. You will be healing the both of you. I am very proud of you because I know that this isn't easy. He may get very angry with you before he realizes that you are doing this for his own good as well as your own.
Good luck sweetie and remember you are doing what is right.
We are hear for you through this.
getting by
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Date Joined Dec 2007
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   Posted 12/19/2007 6:46 PM (GMT -6)   
Oh, he isn't going because he feels there is nothing wrong with him and refuses to go.
I am going to see someone from the Catholic Social Services Agency to talk to. I do not know if they are a psychiatrist or a psychologist. Either one will be a big help.

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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 12/19/2007 7:25 PM (GMT -6)   

Dear rosebud,

I do not know where you live but where I live I would talk with my husbands physician's and have him committed.  If he has called the police it seems there would be a record of the reason for the calls.

This should help you in getting him into inhospital treatment.

Of course I do not know all your circumstances so it is easy for me to post this, it may be a really bad idea.  I wish I had something better to offer you.

Please take care of you.  Know we are here and support you so keep posting.


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Date Joined Dec 2007
Total Posts : 16
   Posted 12/19/2007 7:34 PM (GMT -6)   

I've spoken to all of them and they wouldn't do it. I've called crises intervention, spoken to police, and nurses who deal with psyche patients... All said they couldn't do anything unless he was a harm to himself or others.
Since he refuses help I need to help myself.

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Date Joined Dec 2005
Total Posts : 3036
   Posted 12/20/2007 7:58 AM (GMT -6)   

Good for you!! You deserve to be in a healthy environment's and if someone is not helping themselves,and then taking you down sometimes we have to call it quits to survive ourselves.

Stay strong and keep us posted


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Meds I have taken throughout the years:Wellbutrin,Tranxene,Paxil,Prozac,Valium,

Have been med free for 2 years now.

I will scream with you,Cry with you and hopefully laugh with you.

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