This is Kitt and I am not a fan of Ultram. IMHO it is not a good drug for people that may have depression.
Ultram has some serious side effects that also point to it not being a good choice for depression relief. Some side effects for Ultram include nausea, vomiting, dizziness, constipation, anxiety, and headache. A very serious side affect is addiction.
It does seem like your husband needs to be seen by his physician and if you could be present that would be very helpful.
Now days with all the Hippa Regualtions and Confidentiality laws, the physicians will not talk freely with us re their patient even if it happens to be your spouse.
Keep posing and let us know how you are. Take care of you.