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Date Joined Jan 2009
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   Posted 1/24/2009 12:55 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello everyone, this is my first post. My name is lulup and I need help with my husband who has been non compliant with his diabetes since he was diagnosed in 1996. I have been after him to control his diet but he will not listen. I am actually making myself sick with worry. I am a nurse so I know all of the problems associated with diabetes. he refuses to eat properly, check his blood sugar, go to the Dr's, exercise. He suffers from peripheral neuropathy and pvd. Christmas Eve he experienced chest pain so I brought him to the Er, heart was fine but his glugose level was 354. He takes Januvia, Actos, Glimepide. I put my foot down and with the scare of the chest pain I finally talked him into seeing a cardiologist and go for blood work. his hemaglobin a1c was 13.1 and his albumin was high. We have an appointment Monday with his endochronologist. I can only hope it is not to late to help him.

Diane D.
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Date Joined Jan 2009
Total Posts : 97
   Posted 1/25/2009 1:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Men...gotta love 'em! God forbid they let anything "control" them. Know what I mean...rebellious little boys with attitudes, scared little boys covering it up with attitude, or stubborn little boys who won't budge an inch. What's a wife to do short of losing her mind (or her husband)? They just don't like giving up that "control" for whatever reason. I feel your pain...and you being a nurse that must make it even worse. It's your natural inclination to go "hands on" and give advice and "take control"...Hmmm...there's a thought. Keep in mind I'm just thinking off the top of my head. That's my thing.

I'm no nurse and I'm not one of the more learned posters out here in HealingWell-land but I've had a decent thought or two pop out of my head from time to time. I assuming that it's like having the teacher as your mom. No excuses, no forgetting homework, etc, etc, etc... Poor kid, can't get away with nothin'. And if he tries, boy does he hear about it!! "But it's for your own good!" Yeah, but it sucks NOT to have the freedom to leave school at school. Hard on Mom because she sees it as just loving and wanting the best for her boy. Two very different ways of seeing things.

You really sound like you've taken the reigns and taken "control" from him. With good reason though! But you can't play tug-of-war forever. Unless he's a total moron, he knows everything already that you've "put your foot down" about. You said "we" have an appointment on Monday. Is the doctor examining you too???? Yes, I know what you meant, but if you want him to take control of his Diabetes I think you need to accept that the word "him" is singular and needs to be singular in view of the fact that he's an adult. Darn!!! But I know how you feel.

You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink...Again, men. Gotta love 'em!

Diane D.
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Date Joined Jan 2009
Total Posts : 97
   Posted 1/25/2009 1:05 PM (GMT -7)   
So you're a nurse, LOL. How about posting about my red dots! Thanx!!

Lanie G
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Date Joined Nov 2006
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   Posted 1/25/2009 7:50 PM (GMT -7)   
Lulup, there's no way you can control a stubborn adult.  I don't know how else to convince him he's heading for a heart attack and other complications of diabetes.  Good luck.  (Ask him to get higher life insurance so you can pay off the house when he's gone.  Maybe that would shock him?)  Let us know how the doctor's appointment goes, ok? 

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diabetes controlled so far by low/no carb diet and exercise; no meds

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