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   Posted 2/22/2009 8:54 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi, My husband is 49, has hi BP, and a very rapid weight gain of about 100lbs and extreme water retention. He has always been very physical. A month ago his doctor told us he was diabetec and told him "take these pill and don't eat any sugar". We left the office in shock. Not knowing anything really about diabetes we did not question the doctors words. While my husband did as instructed and cut the "sugar" from his diet, warning lights were going off for me every time he picked up a piece of bread, grabbed an apple or drank a glass milk. When I started researching I kept reading the same thing over and over, management, meal-planning and monitoring. This seemed easy enough, except I am finding it is not. There is wonderful information about all three topics but I cannot help but feel there is some key information we are still missing. I cannot plan meals if I don't have a goal, and we can monitor his blood sugar all day long, it means nothing if there is no base to compare it. I don't feel adventerouse and I don't want to explore the world of diabetes until we find what works. It is a game we are already being forced to play in the world of autism with our four year old. I am willing to do what ever it takes to help my husband feel better and get healthy again, but I don't want to waste energy searching for answers which only his doctor has. Perhaps I am wrong and the advise given us is typical. If it is not please tell me what information we should be requesting from his doc.

Thank you.

Lanie G
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   Posted 2/22/2009 10:15 AM (GMT -7)   
Hello Ing, welcome to HealingWell.  I'm sorry for this perplexing situation.  Somehow I also feel something is "missing".  What is the explanation for the sudden weight gain and water retention?  I think there should be more tests to see what's causing all that because I don't think it's just related to diabetes.  I'm no doctor but if it were me or my husband, I would ask for specific reasons for those two symptoms.  about the diagnosis of diabetes, I would also want to know: what tests did the doctor do to determine this?  Was it one blood test?  Did he just have a fasting blood test or the glucose tolerance test?  What was his blood sugar reading on the test the doctor is basing his diagnosis on?  The 100-pound weight gain is strange and with the water retention, I think there have got to be further tests to explain all that.  about the meal-planning, there are different sources for that, as I'm sure you've discovered.  Pamphlets from the doctor's office, newspaper and magazine articles, anywhere that diet is talked about as well as here - and you'll also find a lot of differences in approach.  But going to the bottom line - his blood sugar and how to control it - means cutting back on carbohydrates.  Sugar and food with sugar (and honey, corn syrup) as well as anything made with flour, potatoes, corn and pasta will keep blood sugar high in diabetics and people who are "borderline".  My own meals are centered around: meats, fish, poultry, vegetables (but not corn or potatoes), salads and salad vegetables like cucumbers, celery, radishes, olives, eggs, cheese and nuts.  Basically I consider the carb content of food.  Prepared food in packages or boxes always have nutrition info on the side, so you can see clearly the carb content and normally, prepared food is pretty high in carbs because of all the additives.  In our house we don't eat prepared food, so this is not an issue for me.  In this way, I can pretty much keep my blood sugar under control.  That's not to say I don't go off the food plan now and then, but for the most part I keep to the plan.  I also do a lot of exercise. You can find lots of information here by looking through the old posts that talk about food and recipes.  Also, I would highly suggest that your husband start to gather and learn this information for himself and not just depend on you!  Just my two cents.  :-)    You have your hands full taking care of your four-year-old and everything else and although you need to understand the food angle for your husband's diet, he also needs to know all this as well.  Let us know how everything is going, ok?

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Post Edited (LanieG) : 2/22/2009 10:22:43 AM (GMT-7)

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   Posted 2/22/2009 9:46 PM (GMT -7)   
I agree with everything Lanie said and would like to add some things as well. I believe one of the things that is missing from your situation is a REAL DOCTOR!! My veterinarian gave me better advice for my dog's ear infection than you got from that guy. I would fire that doctor and get your husband to an endocrinologist pronto! There is much more going on here than diabetes and your present physician doesn't appear to care.

You need to get to the bottom of the water retention and weight gain, and a full lab work up (with him receiving a copy of his medical tests) is in order. Once you know all of the information you can set up a game plan. The food plan that Lanie and I follow is jokingly referred to as the "nothing white except cauliflower and cottage cheese" food plan.

We use lots of veggies, lean meats and fish, lots of olive oil, nuts and even some butter to make our food interesting and delicious. I've gone so far as to slide the toppings off a pizza on to a big salad and had "pizza salad" while the family all ate the crust. Mostly we try to limit all our starches and cut off the high blood sugars at the source... our mouths!

Have your hubby join us and we can take him through this experience step by step. It's a bit overwhelming at first but we will help all we can. We have all been where he is and I, for one, stupidly ignored my doctor's advice for over ten years. I now have the eye changes and nerve damage in my feet to show for my silly head-in-the-sand attitude. Don't let him be stupid like I was. Encourage him to join us in our online discussions and he will learn how to handle this disease like a pro. Before long he will be giving advice to newbies and helping them along.

Take care and keep us posted.
~ Jeannie, Forum Moderator/Diabetes & Fibromyalgia
I know God will not give me anything I can't handle. I just wish that He didn't trust me so much. ~Mother Teresa

"People are like stained glass windows: They sparkle and shine when the sun's out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is light within."- Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

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   Posted 2/22/2009 11:53 PM (GMT -7)   
I agree with both. I am no doctor, but I do have some medical training. Not only would I order more tests, I would also demand dietician classes. When I first was diagnosed, I demanded for my doctor to refer me to diabetic classes to learn how monitor my food. He asked why, as he knew I would be the 4th diabetic out of my siblings and parents. I quipped, "you and I know that each diabetic can be different, and I am also the first female diagnosed." He agreed to send me to class. During classes, I learned how to portion my meals out right, what my bloodsugar range should be, how to order while eating out, and also that I had a ovary problem (lucky catch there). I am now the best one with hemo readings and all I did was go to class, take the metformin and listen to the diet doctor.
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