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   Posted 11/24/2009 3:57 PM (GMT -7)   
smurf  very versed on diabetes I and II. I am a diabetic 2 but a year or two ago i was put on medication for pulmonary fibrosis of the lungs PREDISONE a steriod (with chemo to prevent cancer) The predisone shoots your sugars up now i am insulin dependant,
I am always aware of what i eat but when i go to family gatherings my family nags and spys on me. We always end up having words. I know its because they love me but i love me also. And it gets annoying at the table with the grandchildren listening to their parents nag me if i look at a sweet and join in the nagging and laughing. they know how i feel we discussed it. but i guess because diabetes is a family enemy in my family. It has stolen my Uncle, Mommy, brother now clutches hold of me since i am sickly anyways. There are now 5 five of us left.
my question?  is there anyone out there that could show me a polite tackfull way of telling my family and best friends to back off! before i go into hiding on special day outings especially

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   Posted 11/24/2009 10:07 PM (GMT -7)   
Nobody likes the food police! Tell them that you've been counting your foods and have made allowances for this certain treat. Also, be sure to save some of the treat for a later time, if you can letting them know that this is the correct way to spread out the sugar load.

Sometimes you have to explain to them the facts of life about diabetes. They may think that all sugar is bad and not understand counting carbs or the glycemic index. Give them a little education and if that doesn't work bury them in statistics! LOL! Just remember that most of them are motivated by love.
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   Posted 11/25/2009 1:13 AM (GMT -7)   

You hang in there hon. Your family sounds like my grandmama, and I sneak when she doesnt look or wait til she leaves or eats before she comes hehe. But I do know how chemo is, and prednisone. Sounds like we had the same course of treatment.They debated putting me on a sliding scale insulin. But I decided to out smart them when I was hospitalized when I first got sick. I carb count personally, so I ate on a base of what my bloodsugar was. For example, when I was hungry I would ask for a nurse to test me and find out my glucose reading. Ie: If I was 200, I'd make sure to order plenty of salad (freebie) and other no carb foods and cuz I know I drop about 30 points an hour, I aimed to have 30 carbs in meal instead of norm 45 to 60. Remember you can always eat again if you get low readings. By getting real strict and watching what I ate I prevented the insulin. Yay, I hate needles! By the way long term predison will cause side effects. I had hot flashes and I'm only nearing 29! ALso had a lot of cramping and spasming.
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   Posted 11/25/2009 12:45 PM (GMT -7)   
nanamojo, lots of zingers are flying through my mind to answer the food police.  However, I also realize it's better to go easy on them for the sake of good relations.  rolleyes    Anyway, as Jeannie said, one way would be to explain to the dear ones that you have done your research and your blood sugar is under control because of your wise choices.  You can tell them a little of how a "normal" person's body might handle the meal and how a diabetic's body (including a borderline diabetic or someone who's insulin resistent) will handle the meal.  Tell them you know the importance of taking care of yourself and that you don't want to go down the same road to full-blown or uncontrolled diabetes as perhaps some other relatives have.  And ask them to please stop the teasing, laughing and nagging because it's making you sad, angry and discouraged, especially in front of the children.  And then ask if you can take their blood sugar with your meter to see how they're doing, too.  wink
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   Posted 11/25/2009 6:21 PM (GMT -7)   
smurf  thank you friends thank y'all for the tips
i'll get back to y'all and for those in usa happy thanksgiving

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   Posted 12/4/2009 7:35 PM (GMT -7)   
Depending on context - who said what, when, where and even how.. different responses can apply.

"Do you really think you know more about my diabetes than I do?" or "Are you concerned for some reason that I'm not in control of my Diabetes?" throws the ball back hard into their court.

If it's from my Mom I sometimes just start laughing, kiss her head, and tell that she worries too much. Sometimes, I show her or explain to her whatever she needs to feel comfortable that I've got things under control.

If a tete-a-tete (face-to-face) is possible, you could explain that their nagging/policing is, in fact, insulting. Ask them point blank what it is that concerns them so much so that you might put their minds as ease. They're probably more scared for you than you for yourself because they have zero control. Many times those little snippets of nagging or public harassment at your expense, are often displays of the their insecurities about it all. They're looking for reassurance from you :-)
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