Hi daykin and welcome to the family!
I am also married to a Type 1. We will be married 34 yrs later this summer. He has been a diabetic for almost 28 yrs, originally dx a Type 2. A yr later when he almost died, the drs discovered he was a Type 1.
He also worked the 3rd shift for most of our married life. That does throw off the whole flow in your body. Especially, if he switches to a 'regular' schedule on his days off. 1 1/2 yr ago, he almost died from a massive low sugar and as we now believe, a heart attack. Shortly after that he went on the insulin pump.
Most times my DH is a very laid back guy, very easy going. When his sugar is 'off', he gets very confused, digs his heels in. Stubborn pain in the *** comes to mind.
He had a tough time trying to get all the details of using the pump. His dr and the trainer were/are very patient w/ him and very supportive of me.
We go w/ each other for dr appts. I would prepare the papers to present to the drs, so all information was there. (List of meds, doses, allergies, all drs, and specific questions for this visit) My DH keeps his records of all his readings. The regular times the dr wants, and all the times when he goes low or high. He also keeps a record of anything out of the ordinary, if he gets sick, etc. My suggestion, dr encouraged.
I went basically to keep track of what the dr said, I would write the notes on my copy of the report. My DH didn't want to 'bother' the dr w/ somethings. Finally, I said, 'I'm talking to the dr.' DH didn't always remember how something was to be done. He 'Remembered' the instructions differently from how they were given. My DH was told the right way to do each step, again. I wrote down everything.
The past couple of yrs have been very difficult, I well understand - hold on tight and grit your teeth. Oh Yeah!
Do you go w/ him for his dr appts, would he accept your going w/ him? If not, I would suggest you speak w/ his dr. by phone. If you go for the visit, write down everything you notice, what is happening at the time. Hopefully, this will help to get him on track and your family life a bit more settled. My prayers are w/ you.
God bless. Alice.