Welcome to HealingWell, littlered6er. I understand your fears and I'm sorry that you are going through this. I can give you some help understanding what he should be eating but it sounds as if he's also dealing with depression and that's something that needs to be addressed. Patients with long-term high blood sugar frequently suffer from depression and should be seen by a proper doctor like a psychiatrist or psychologist. Honestly, I don't know how to help a person who's not ready to be helped.
First of all, where is his doctor in all this? Is he seeing a civilian doctor or one at the VA? Can you speak to the doctor or go with your husband to his appointments? I think he needs to be re-evaluated for diabetes medication. Somehow, his doctor needs to know that his way of injecting is not sanitary or healthy and that's also a worry. Because of the HIPPA regulations (about
patient privacy), I don't know if or how you will be able to speak to his doctor.
Your concerns are real and with two little kids and a wife, it's important for him to take care of himself. I don't know the best way for you to convince him to take care of himself, mainly because he's probably not in the best frame of mind.
Maybe one way for you to help change things would be to take charge of the meal preparation and food choices in the house. This would mean cutting back on bread, potatoes, rice, pasta, heavy carbs, etc. Instead of including those prominently in your meals, try featuring more and different vegetables, a decent piece of meat (or any protein) and a very small portion of a carb so no one feels like it's the end of the world.
And incorporating exercise everyday is important. Sustained exercise like walking, biking, swimming, dancing are all good for lowering blood sugar and helps everyone. It won't feel like exercise if everyone is doing it.
With warmer weather, grilling vegetables and chicken is a great idea. Substitute sweet potatoes for white potatoes. Mix diced up cucumbers, bell peppers, tomatoes, avocados, onions and any veggie you can eat raw for a big salad with oil and lemon juice.
For your information, here is a website that has a lot of information about
blood sugar: www.phlaunt.com/diabetes/
If you don't have wills made out yet, tell him you both need to make them immediately. Shake him up.
I wish I could help more. I hope others can add some suggestions. Keep posting. We'll see how we can help you with this.
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very low carb way of eating