I'm new to the forum and would like to get your feedback.
I recently started dating a guy that has T1. When we first hooked up I had no idea of his condition, then gradually he started to tell me about being diabetic and that he's on full insulin. I learned that he was only diagnosed 2 years ago, and that the doctors at the time told him if he didn't get it under control he would be dead by 35.
Our relationship is unique because we live in separate cities (Me in USA, He in Canada). We work for the same company and travel for business. We only see each other periodically and when opportunity permits.
The last trip we took together was really an eye opener. He had no choice but to give himself shots in front of me, while the other times he was able to take them without my knowledge. I noticed a certain amount of reluctance on his part while he took the shot, almost as if he expected me to shy away or be repulsed. I tried to be as reassuring as possible so I looked away to give him more privacy.
I'm not knowledgable at all with diabetes, however, upon arriving home, I looked up symptoms and causes, etc., to get a better understanding. I want to know more to support him, but don't want to overstep my bounds.
Since then, we haven't been able to meet up, but will at the end of the month. So I really would like to know from the group what is the best way to handle myself so that he feels comfortable. From conversation, I get the sense that he's still coming to terms with it himself. He hates taking the shots, doesn't eat at regular times, and can't handle stress effectively.
A friend suggested I get some syringes and practice on an orange just in case I had to give him the shot. Of course I think I should talk to him first about that so to give him a comfort level.
Other questions I have are:
Do you often get sick or feel over tired?
What is the best snacks to keep on hand?
Should I ask him to show me how to give him the shot? Would this be presumptuous at such an early stage of our relationship?
What do I do to build his trust? I'm interested in the long haul and not a passing thing.
There will probably be other questions, but for now this would be a good start.