Dear Buddy Kris,
Guess what? They have changed in the past few years, too! I think by going on this fun visit you will find that the more things change the more they stay the same. Plan for a fun time, lots of happy tears and laughs, take some photos of the old days and your life as it is now. Good friendships need to be nurtured and that's what you are doing with this visit.
Everyone there will be having anxious feelings about
gained weight, a new wrinkle, a broken marriage, lost dreams, unfulfilled expectations, life's disappointments. But friends build each other up and support. Here's how I see friends vs. critics in life... I call it rocks and sticks. Might work for you. I like to visualize the peeps I know in this way:Been thinking about moving along my life path, my friends and the problem people who kind of get in front of me. I decided to just keep on being my own self and look upon my detractors as stumbling blocks in my life. I need to walk around and avoid them. They are not valuable gems that I need to pick up and carry. Every time I think of one of these people I picture a sharp rock, say a quick prayer for the poor rock and stay on path. If I picked up every heavy rock I saw I would never finish my journey. For me, you are a walking stick. You strengthen me, prop me up, keep me from stumbling and assist me on my life journey. You do not lead me or follow me, you are beside me, helping me, and I hope I am the same for you.
I believe that rocks choose to be rocks. Only God has the strength to pick them up and turn them into viable beings intent on moving toward Him. We are not strong enough to carry all the rocks of this world. We can only pray for them....
Thank you for being a stick.
Go ahead and go for it! Sit down when you are tired, drink diet soda or water with a slice of lime. Dance as much as you feel up to, be yourself. This is you and you have Type 1 diabetes. If they are going to remain your friends then they need to like the real you that you have become. I think they will be walking sticks and you'll have a great time. If your whole friendship was based on being blasted away on booze and acting like party girls... and you are so past that... bring that up with them via email and see if they are still stuck in the past. That should help you make your decision. I don't see you as a wet blanket. I see you as a smart
~ Jeannie, Forum Moderator/Diabetes & Fibromyalgia
~Please remember that 50% of all doctors graduated in the bottom half of their class! Yours may be one of them...
=================="People are like stained glass windows: They sparkle and shine when the sun's out, but when the darkness sets in
, their true beauty is revealed only if there is light within."- Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
Post Edited (Jeannie143) : 6/15/2007 10:35:35 AM (GMT-6)