My boyfriend had a seizure

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   Posted 6/17/2014 12:11 PM (GMT -7)   
I have been dating my boyfriend for a year now. He is 20 years old and used to play soccer frequently for his school and traveling teams. It has taken some time for him to open up to me, but just recently I have felt like he expresses himself a lot more to me. However, he did not tell me that he had a seizure six months ago in his sleep. Apparently, his doctor gave him some medicine and since then he was seizure free. Just last week she told him to slowly stop taking the medicine since he seemed to be fine. However, Friday night we were laying down on the couch cuddling, talking, and watching TV, and all of a sudden he went into a seizure. I panicked because I hadn't known about the first one, and as a 19 year old I have never been in that situation. It was traumatizing and I could not stop crying. I ran and got his parents and since his dad is doctor he knew how to handle the situation. When my boyfriend woke up, he couldn't remember any of what had happened and threw up because of the excessive amount of blood he was swallowing due to biting his tongue. I tucked him into bed, and after some time he fell asleep. The next morning he asked me if I thought it was weird or gross, and of course I didn't because I love him and care for him. He did not want to talk about it much. Now that I'm home (we live an hour apart), I haven't really had the chance to ask him much about it. I'm just freaking out now. Will he be able to drive and do the things we normally did? Is he going to get seizures the rest of his life? Did playing soccer and possibly getting a concussion cause this? Is it possible that he'll never get seizures again? I know this is bad, but my parents basically explained to me that I can't see a future with this guy. I'm so upset and just want some answers. If anyone has any information on non-epileptic seizures or any answers to my questions please help!

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   Posted 6/19/2014 7:36 AM (GMT -7)   
We live in the house my wife was raised in. Across the street, when my wife was young, was a family with fraternal twins. One of those twins had horrible health issues her entire life, visibly stunting her growth, affecting her posture, and a bunch of other things. Her life was assuredly shortened. Yet she met a young man, they married, bought a house, and she lived only a few years after that. But she was so happy, and he so kind and giving.

When you love someone, you love them for what they are, not what they could be. I have heart rhythm issues, seizures, a tic, anxiety, and my wife has lived with that most our 38 years of marriage. She has a few issues as well.

Your parents remark appears to be somewhat insensitive, but parents are like that. But their reasoning doesn't include the concept of healthy men and women that cheat on their other half, or use drugs, or any number of things. Happiness is not always great health.

I do not have Grand Mal seizures, mine just effect memory and makes me feel Deja Vu strongly. But your boyfriend and I have one thing in common, that being the seizures are capable of being controlled by medication. The likely reason your boyfriend had a seizure was the withdrawal of medication. There may be a suspension of his licence until he is seizure free for 6 months, but people with controlled seizure conditions can drive. Improper withdrawal of seizure medication can cause a seizure, so if his doctor didn't instruct him to taper enough, that may have been the cause even if an underlying condition didn't exist.

Hope this helps.

Famous people with seizures.

Post Edited (JungRulz) : 6/19/2014 10:09:12 AM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 6/19/2014 10:09 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you so much for your response JungRulz. That's something I definitely needed to hear. Like you said, there are so many other issues people can have with relationships, and if the only hiccup we have in our relationship is him getting a seizure once in a while, then I am one lucky girl.

Thank you again!
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