I just moved from Georgia, and I know it was really hard for me to get any help while I lived there. After a really bad night, followed by a few really bad days in the hospital, I ended up being sent to Emory hospital, up in Atlanta, for VEEG, and a better MRI. All my previous tests had come back normal, and though I tried several medications, I couldn't find a combination that would get the seizures under control. Well, the docs at Emory were finally able to catch something on the feed, and solve the mystery AND they ended up writing off the bill. They have a lot of patients who come in w/o insurance, and they have a financial counselor meet with you while you're there, so it can be taken care of before you leave. It might be a good subject to bring up with the neuro.
As for the fear of auras, I deal with that pretty much daily, too. I always worry when I'm out in public, that the auras will become full seizures, and my heart starts racing just thinking about it. When I have tonic-clonic seizures my heart rate will go up to 140 before I black out, so when my heart starts racing with an aura, it's easy to freak out. One thing I've found that helps is to kind of talk myself through it. I don't know if it will make any sense, but when I start to panic, I remind myself that I'm alright, that it's okay to have an aura. I try picturing a really peaceful place, like mountains or a lake, and make myself focus on walking around, looking at the different views. I guess it kind of takes my attention away from my heart racing, and once I'm through it, I know I'm okay for awhile. I can't handle living in fear, so I have to learn to work through it, and pay really close attention, so I can tell if a full seizure is coming on and be able to get somewhere safe.
I don't know if this will help much, but it's just an idea to try. Good luck with the neuro.