Selective inattention ... never heard of it but sounds like they might be using a more polite term for psuedoseizure (aka fake seizure). A psuedoseizure is a "seizure" that is not known to be caused by the brain. A lot of doctors are quick to push off people who suddenly develop seizures or who dont have them regularly enough or severe enough to keep them from being deemed as an epileptic. This helps the patient by being allowed to keep such priviledges as their license.
It sucks about your job. I wasn't able to get a license till I was 21, wasn't able to move out of my mother's house till I was engaged because I wasn't able to live (or well sleep, have nocturnal tonic clonics) alone. Find a medication that helps you do what you have to be able to do. There is many great ones out there but do keep an eye out for side effects. If your doctor is nice and feels you have gotten your seizures back controlled (depending on state law) you should be able to get your license back and your old life back.
Also if you plan on seeing your doctors long term and need to take medications long term, than start studying about insurance laws. Things like COBRA and such would be a great help for you since insurance agencies love to deny epileptics.
*Wow, am typing this at library... normally post from my phone. Is so much easier to type on this*