I received my first seizure when I was a 12 year old boy in sixth grade (14 yrs ago now). So, while I was a little older here are a few suggestions from my experiences.
1) The biggest thing that I hated was to be different from everyone else. My Mom and I agreed to let the teachers, principals, and others know, but who I let know throughout the fellow students was up to me.
2) Make sure you don't do all everyday tasks for him (baby'ing). I grew to hate the fact that I had to lean on everyone to do things for me. (I still feel this today.)
3) Family...I know that I could never have survived as a kid without the entire family behind me. I have one sister and she is 4 yrs younger then me. She was actually there at the table when I had my first seizure. I don't really have any suggestions on how to include them, but I know from experience that I really appreciate it, and I know that my sister is there just as much as my parents if I really need her.
4) I definitely agree with mamason on having a personal meeting with the specific teachers. My parents and/or I had a side meeting with them to let them know how to handle it, some details on how often it had showed up lately, etc, etc.
To both mamason and jonsmom1:
Never give up...no matter how much your son complains about
tests, drugs, and other stuff. I would have never survived my 14 yrs with seizures now without the support and knowledge that if I called my parents or sister in the middle of the night saying that I needed them, that they would jump in the car at 1 am and drive and/or fly to me immediately. It took me until I moved out of the house to fully appreciate everything my parents did for me. So, even if the appreciation is not shown right away please stick with everything. A bump in the road is a great way to look at it.