WOW, thought there was a mirror there when you were talking!
My first hubby was very abusive too..I have a chink missing from one of my vertebrae where he kicked me with a pair of steel toe work boots..
He was the devil himself..
Funny enough, after we had been apart for several years (we have 2 kids together), I had a dream..a really nice dream..honestly. We were all in the kitchen (my ex, his wife, me and my hubby) having coffee talking politely and joking around while the kids all played out side.
That was the entire dream, nothing bad, no mean words or anything.. and I was so FREAKED out by the simple dream, that my heart was POUNDING
so hard, it woke up my hubby!! He thought I was having a heart attack!! I was on muscle relaxers for a few days from the pain in my chest of my heart pounding..it was awful..all over a stupid dream!!
Well, new hubby, Dave, is not abusive in any where near that manner, he can be so hurtful in what he says..I really chalk it up to his heritage, and his upbringing..he doesn't know how to treat people.
Add to that he is a construction worker, so it isn't like he has to behave at work
It is hurtful when our companions don't support us, but one thing I have to keep reminding myself of, it can't be easy for them either..
So, I try harder on days I feel good, but he know when I hit a wall, leave me alone..no rude comments or anything..or I will break out "my choppers"
I really hope you feel better, and am glad to have you here with us..it is a great place to vent and get advice..no big girl panties needed here..lol..
Have a great day!!
hypothyroidism for 20+ years
total colectomy with ileo rectal anastomosis 1/12
newly diagnosed with fibromyalgia
Doc~ "you don't understand, and ostomy bag is life altering"
Me~ "NO, you don't understand, an ostomy bag is a bag of crap you deal with. Life altering is not being alive to be with my family"