Cindy, I'm so sorry for all that you are goign through right now. I don't have much advice for the pain of fibro. I'm still on my way to a dx and learning every step of the way. But you have gotten some great advice up in the other posts... rest when you can, use moist heat, double up on the tylenol and advil (although it doesn't work for me, it's worth a shot). I guess I went through a flare a few weeks ago. I was so down, I didn't see how I could manage to keep going. If this was fibro, then I would rather have anything else. But I kept moving, and I made it through. It was a huge help when I didn't focus so much on what I couldn't do, but on what I could do instead.
Hopefully if you can get some sleep, your pain will improve dramatically. There is another post about
rls too, you may get some ideas you haven't tried yet.
You mentioned you have a dd in diapers, how old is she? I have 2 girls, 16 months and 4, and 2 boys, 5 and 9. The 4 y/o has become such a rude little diva since her birthday, and the baby is either the most active of the bunch, or I'm just too old to keep up, lol. Then the boys are so loud, I think they play their war games only when i"m around to drive me over the edge! But really, they are good kids. And you know what about
kids? They are very forgiving. Be upfront with your 8 y/o, let her know how you feel and that you need help. I can't imagine being a single mom, so for you, it's especially important that you get help when you can. I just divided up a chore chart for the kids, b/c I just coudln't keep up and do it all myself. I could leave things, but if it's not done, I see the mess, it makes me on edge, or depressed, and it spirals down from there. My 9 y/o was especially helpful in deciding what each child could do, and he was much more
open to helping when he had a say in what he had to do. And make sure you set some time aside each day for YOU, something relaxing that you enjoy. Is there any way that you could hire a mother's helper to help with light chores or taking the kids for an hour in the afternoon? How about
on your worse days, forget getting dressed adn beds, but put a fun spin on it for your girls... it's PJ day!! snuggle on the couch with some sandwiches for supper and watch movies. And you don't have to be active to spend time with the kids. Some days when I take the kids out, I can't run around like I used to. I take out my patio chair and throw them a ball from there. Find some crafty projects that you and your older dd can do together. I don't know, just throwing ideas out there. It's always easier when you are on the outside of the situation. I like the idea of getting your mother informed on fibro too, you really need her on your side so she can help out when you need it.
And please don't look too far ahead. No sense worrying about
the new school year when you may feel perfectly fine then! Good luck, and please let us know how you are doing!
in the land of Limbo, taking OTC meds only.
Don't know what's wrong, can't fix it, doctors are so sloooow!!!