I had a long talk with my cousin this morning. She is 56 and has terminal cancer. She had radiation for the brain cancer, lost all her hair within 5 days, she still has sores in her mouth and some soreness on her head from it. She has had two chemo treatments and is having another tomorrow using three different chemos. They did another brain scan and she will find out this week if the radiation helped with the cancer. After 9 weeks of chemo she will have another PET scan to see if it is slowing down the cancer in the rest of her body. In other words she knows her time is limited she just doesn't know how limited.
I know where she came from so I wasn't too surprised at the positive attitude she has, both her parents were the most positive people I have ever known.
She didn't want to spend a lot of time talking about herself other than update me on everything. She chose to talk as if nothing had changed since we last talked before she found out she had cancer. She is not in denial, she just doesn't want to spend the rest of her life talking about what is killing her. We even spent time talking about my fibro, her choice not mine. Teri has always been the one full of suggestions when it comes to keeping healthy and that hasn't changed. She is getting the best help possible to buy more time.
I felt quite humbled by our conversation when I got off the phone. We have half the same blood running through our veins, our dads were brothers. So if she can face terminal cancer head on with a positive attitude I can more than handle this DD with the same positive attitude. I've been working on this for some time now and have made a lot of progress since I've been on this forum. I hate to say this cause I know it will go to her head but Little Miss Sunshine has been a big help in this department.
My point is I know it's hard dealing with this DD and it can get us down. Our lives have been changed so much and we have lost so much of the person we use to be. But it is not a death sentence. I don't want others to have to have a close family member dying of a terminal disease to see how blessed we are to only have fibro. Especially when we don't know how soon they might find the cause and cure for fibro. We have hope in our lives and there are many out there that don't have that hope. Positive thinking and attitude can take us so far if we let it. One choice we have is how we think, no one can take that away from us.
So please do some positive thinking today.
luv and hugs
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