Kythe, you are not going to like my response. You said, in your original post that "I'm not in that much pain today, but just really tired and really didn't want to eat in a restaurant because it gets so noisy in those places from everyone talking, not to mention I don't have much of an appetite." You made the decision not to go. You were included and your Mom wanted you to go but you chose not to go. Why do you think they should all stay home because you chose not to go? It wasn't because of pain. It was because you didn't feel like going. That, to me, is the big difference here.
I had times where I chose not to go places and my family went without me. That was fine with me, since I made that choice. I couldn't expect my family to stay home just because I didn't want to go. We have health issues but the world moves forward anyway. You have to make the effort or you will be left behind...and it's not always something as simple as a restaurant.
I know I take every opportunity to get out in the world and live my life, whether or not I feel like it. I usually don't feel like it but I do it anyway and am glad I did. I do some travelling and some day trips with a group. I can't tell you how many times the day of a trip arrives and I wished I hadn't signed up and paid for it. But, just because I didn't feel like going, I didn't stop myself from going. AND, I have always been glad that I went because I ended up having a good time. Sitting home by yourself and feeling sorry for yourself is not living. No one wants to hurt your feelings, Kythe, including me. But, life goes on and you need to jump in and start enjoying it. No one can do that for you.
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