Tluv, I'm sorry you are going through all of this. There are always things that don't have to be done immediately so save them for another day. Only do the necessary things. I'm so happy that your husband has been a help to you. I don't know the ages of your children, but if they are old enough to help, get their help. You have been given some good advice from other members. Now I'm going to play cheerleader!
When I developed fibro my children were 9, 10, and 13. I remember the taxi driving all around, driving them to school, the soccer and softball practices and games that I had to go to, the piano lessons, and, when they got in high school and in marching band, I REALLY remember sitting on cold, metal bleachers, with no back support, for three hours in 30 degree weather! (Lived in Cleveland, Ohio at the time.) I honestly didn't know how I was going to walk, let along go down the steps to get to the car. But, I did it. You can too. It's not fun, but, if you take it a day at a time, you can do it.
We have sooo much strength and intestinal fortitude in us that we never use. We CAN do things if we tell ourselves that we can. When we are in pain, it is so easy to say that we can't do things. If we say it enough, we start to believe it and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. It's almost like brainwashing ourselves! Try telling yourself that you CAN do it and you WILL do it and move forward, not focusing on the pain. You will be amazed at what you accomplish.
There are so many times I don't feel well and really don't want to do what I need to do. Procrastinating is tempting but, if I just get up and get moving and accomplish my goal, I feel soooo much better. I will tell myself, "See, I knew you could do it!" That brings me joy. It lets me know that fibromyalgia will not rule my life and that does make me happy.
I hope this has helped you some. Life with fibro is not for sissies. We are strong, courageous people and we will be victorious over this miserable syndrome!
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