Hi Fibrofog and welcome...
My first thing to say to you is....breathe. (And I thought I had a rapid fire way of thinking. lol) I know that you have a lot of questions, a lot of worries, and a lot of decisions to start making. But if you don't take the time to stop, breathe, and then logic it out the only thing that's gonna happen is that you're gonna end up spinning yourself up and probably in a word of trouble of some kind or another.
I have to agree with the others, I don't think that moving in with a really new boyfriend is going to be the answer. Even living with your parents is a better situation. At least in their house you know who you're dealing with, you already know how they live (if they're neat freaks or what), you know that they don't have any ulterior motives, and as you yourself said, it would keep you with your daughter. With their health in decline, you may even be able to seek some sort of state pay as a caretaker for them. (I'm not sure how well they are or are not functioning)
There are options for financial assistance via education, and as you may have already discovered, there's a lot of cities that are flooded with network admins and sysops. So the more education you have the better of an advantage you have. And congrats on passing the network+, I'm still having trouble just retaining all 7 layers of the OSI model.
I'm glad that you found us and that you can get some ideas and answers. People here are very kind, caring, and knowledgeable. All of us are willing to listen and to try and brainstorm together about
solutions. Collectively I don't think there's anything that we as a group can't figure out.
Hopefully you will be able to start finding some solutions and implementing them. It takes some time to get used to the fact that you can't do it ALL now, but with some planning and preparation you can do ALMOST everything.
Fibro does have some common characteristics in everyone, but it's got so many variables that there's not a straight across the board experience with it. It's something that we just learn to work around and makes us rather inventive on getting to where we need to be.
I'm wishing you the best of luck in getting this all figured out and feel free to post and use us a sounding board to ponder ideas. We're all here to help.