C-section vrs Vaginal birth. Please help!

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   Posted 10/14/2008 12:13 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi moms!
I've been trying to find any good studies or learn through experiences that could help me make this decision.
I've already scheduled a section for Nov 17, but now that I'm able to sit up long enough (thanks to zoloft) to do more research, I'm concerned about my body's healing time.
I'm 35 weeks and have been in a hideous flare for 7 months straight now. (lost my job 6 months ago, can't take care of myself let alone anything else) I can't imagine adding labor to this mess. History has shown though that I don't recover well at all. I still deal with a back strain that happened 6 years ago and can't put any amount of pressure on my scar from knee surgery 13 years ago. I'm worried that adding an abdominal procedure while I already struggle to keep my back strong is not a good idea. I also plan to tie my tubes, but may end up going with tubal implants if I can stear clear of surgery.
Can you share with me your stories of birth, good and bad? How about experiences with ligations? I'd really appreciate it:)

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   Posted 10/14/2008 4:57 AM (GMT -7)   
Im sorry you are having a difficult time I did not have fibro when I had my children. My opinion would be to go natural if possible The endorphins from birth may actually help. I had a really easy time with labor
heck if someone told me child birth cured fibro i would do it again. I did not have ligations my husband had a vasectomy Much easier for men than women he was playing volley ball the next day. I have never had an epidural But have known several people who have and had bad reactions. I know some people that swear by them. I believe this is going to have to be a personal choice because every one is different I know that people that have natural birth recover quicker than C section. So that may be a point to ponder. I wish you the best of luck in whatever decision you make.

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   Posted 10/14/2008 7:34 AM (GMT -7)   

beleive i had fibro yet with my two pregnancies, altho the second pregnancy took alot out of me, i made sure to still work out the entire pregnancy, i was back at the gym on the treadmill 4 days after my daughter was born.    I wish i could do that now. My knees hurt and my back hurts, i have to have painkillers just to live a semi normal life.

But i had both my children vaginally. I did have epidurals with both, wassnt going to with my son, but the talked me into it, and i am glad they did,my daughters birth was much easier then the my sons. SO my reccomendation is to go vaginally with an epidural, espeicially if you dont do well with pain, its far less painful with an epidural.  I also had my tubes tied the day my daughter was born, it seemed simple not to hard to recover from.

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   Posted 10/14/2008 9:34 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi and welcome nmutua. I did not have fibro when I had my children but I had the first two vaginally and the last c-section. I do have a larger scar than normal cause it was an emergency and life or death for my son. It took a lot longer to snap back after the c-section and there are more risk involved.
I hope some of the mothers that have gone through childbirth with fibro can help you with this decision.
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   Posted 10/14/2008 11:09 AM (GMT -7)   
Technically, I had fibro during my second pregnancy, but drs. thought that I had early stages of lupus. My pregnancies were nightmares ( not due to fibro, though) my labor and deliveries were fairly easy (vaginal births) and I recovered in no time. In fact the recoveries were the best part. I was waterskiing (with drs. OK) when my baby was 3 weeks old. Good luck, Diane
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   Posted 10/14/2008 11:37 AM (GMT -7)   

i had a c-section last december....i was okay during pregnancy...had a bit more pain than usual, but nothing like a flare...after the c-section i immediatly went into a severe flare....the nurses at the hospital had a really hard time understanding how i could be on percocet and still be in so much pain....the incision didn't hurt at all really....it was definatley my tender points and joints....

i think that labor may have caused a similar affect though....birthing a baby is hard work and causes great strain on the body.....

not sure what to tell you here...just my experience i suppose....

either way, good luck....babies are just wonderful and i'm sure it will be worth all the pain to have your little one come into this world...

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   Posted 10/14/2008 5:09 PM (GMT -7)   
Is this your first? Labor is different for everyone. It's pretty easy for some and rough for others. Usually, labor gets easier with each pregnancy.

I was healthy when I had my first child and it was a natural birth. I had planned natural if I could tolerate but had planned for meds if needed. There were complications so I could not be medicated. The baby was born vaginally and healthy.

I had been sick for almost 4 years when I had my second. I had the flu and broke my water with all the coughing. I was eventually given a shot for the pain, I think it was Demerol. It would not have been pleasant on a normal day, add in the flu and it was miserable. But I did it. The fibro pain made the pregnancy more difficult and painful. Afterwards, I felt lousy because of the flu but I don't remember any extra fibro problems. This baby had some complications at birth so that took my mind off me for the first 24 hours. It was such a stressful time but I didn't flare. The complications resolved in a few weeks and he is fine.

My daughter had a C-section and I've had 3 abdominal surgeries. Based on this, I think I'd avoid surgery if I could. Labor is tough, even healthy women sometimes have trouble but don't be afraid of labor. It usually ends within 24 hours, then you can get up and walk around. You can change your position easily and move around. After a C-section, it's harder to get up and walk. You are in more pain everytime you move. Yes, they'll give you pain meds but they don't work so well on fibro pain. You'll be less active after a section and that's what would cause me to flare.

This is my experience and opinions. You know you and what makes you flare. Good luck and let us know if you do find any research on this.

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   Posted 10/15/2008 8:16 AM (GMT -7)   
Is there a medical or safety reason concerning the baby for you having a scheduled C-section? If not please remember that having a c-section is MAJOR abdominal surgery and not to be done just for the sake of convenience. Like the other ladies said, labor isn't easy but when it's over, it's over and you have a wonderful baby as the prize for your efforts. Yes you get the baby with a section too but it's effects will linger much longer than the labor did. something to think about. By the way, best wishes to your new baby, you and your whole family. Lisa

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   Posted 10/15/2008 11:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you all for sharing your experiences:)  A little info on why we originally planned a C-section...
I have never been afraid of labor, actually kinda looked forward to the experience.  I've been through plenty of pain in my life, it didn't worry me at all.  When this flare hit 7 months ago, it really threw my body into a massive whirl wind or constant pain. 
I've been dealing with:
Severe nerve pain to any light touch especially in my legs, muscle weakness in the limbs, muscle pain and spasms in the back and legs, deep nerve pain concentrated in the hips, tailbone, butt muscles, spine, back muscles and feet (upper back for the first 3 months), arthritis sensation in the knees, ankles, hands, wrists and toes, sleep disturbance due to pain (waking ever 15 minites to an hour tops), fatigue, over sensitivity to light and sound, constant ear ringing, (now they've both been almost completely plugged for 5 days) sudden episodes of RAPID heart racing and breathing with hightened body temperature and an inability to catch my breath for no reason (panic attack style).
I obviously lost my job, had to drop out of school etc.   I've been on percocet for about 6 months and now the Zoloft (thank God) just so that I can get around the house a little and get more sleep.  Don't mean to whine here, I know everyone on here is going through pain.  I'd just like to find some others that have dealt with this level of torture for this long leading up to their birth. 
Just watching women laying in the hospital bed on TV, pulling their knees made me cry one day.  There is NO way I could just lay in that possition for any amount of time.  My spine feels like it would snap and the nerves in my hips and legs won't allow it.  I couldn't even use the muscles needed to push on the toilet.  (sorry, graphic)  Before the Zoloft took away alot of the nerve pain, I seriously thought I may go into such shock during labor that I didn't want to know what other levels of pain there could be to experience on top of everything else.
Now that the level of nerves have been brought down, I think I could handle labor with just the rest of it.  I'd like to see if my hospital has the birthing tubs since water will distract my nerves a little and take some of the weight off my spine and tailbone since I won't be laying in bed much.  I entirely plan on an epideral though, but don't know yet if you have one while being in water.   ??? 
Do any of you have any advice on letting your doctor know your birthing plan?  Like, I'm not going to lay in a possition I can't and I'm not fond of the idea of people yelling at me to push when it's not absolutely nessasary.  I really don't want to have to explain the FM with any staff at the hospital cause there is NO way they're going to understand the half of it, let alone it's stressful to me. 


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   Posted 10/15/2008 10:18 PM (GMT -7)   
Write up your plan and make multiple copies. Have your partner hand them out to everyone that comes in the room. Take charge of your birth and do what YOU feel works best unless there is a safety reason. A lot of what they do is for their convenience, not yours. Research birth positions. You really need to talk to your doctor and check out the local hospitals and birth centers. Ask around, you want to know how the doctor and hospital really are, not just go by what they tell you.

You shouldn't be told to push until it is time, otherwise it can cause problems. The nursing staff can change in the middle of your labor and you'll have to educate the new staff.

I took a hot shower at the hospital during labor with my second baby. They had me do it to relax me and move labor along. It speeded up the contractions and was not pleasant. I think the tub would be great but then again, I thought the shower was a good idea too. Back then, you couldn't have a epidural and get out of bed let alone get in water but things change.

The more interventions you have, the less freedom you have. If you don't have drugs or a fetal monitor, you can walk around until the kid falls out but once they start doing things, you get restricted to bed.

You can plan everything out to a T and then things could change in a second. The most important thing is to deliver a healthy baby no matter how you do it. I wanted meds with my first one and they couldn't give me anything because she was in distress.

I'm sorry you are in soooo much pain when you should be able to just relax and enjoy this time. Make the choices that are best for you.

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   Posted 10/16/2008 12:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Okay,I had horrible pregnancies and rough labor. This was pre diagnosis and I did not even know what fibro was (though I had it).

I had pitocin to induce labor with the first (12 hours after I broke waters). For both pregnancies I used an epidural. After they (the drugs) were administered I felt great.

In fact, I enjoyed no longer being pregnant. After my second child was born though I was in a lot of pain the first few days. they gave me percocet and I felt better.

I had what is called back labor. That is when the baby's head is turned and presses on your lower back and all of the painful nerves.

If you know that will happen to you ahead of time, get the c-section. lol

The best to you and yours, Donnaeil

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   Posted 10/16/2008 3:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Don't worry too much about having to lay down in bed. I didn't know this would happen to me until I went into labor, but I couldn't stand laying down. I sat bolt upright,(much better posture than I had either before or since). The labor nurses were fine with it, when I said it hurt to lay down. They did make me lay down on the rolling bed to the delivery room, which I hated, but it only took about 30 seconds. This was my first child, which was over 25 years ago, so they should be even better now. The second time I gave birth, I told them I was NOT going to lay down on the gurney, and they let me walk into the delivery room. (I could have stayed in the birthing room, but they ran out of labor rooms and asked if I would leave, which was fine with me) Also, remember, not everyone goes nuts and can't think straight and wants to kill the father. I think I was fairly reasonable during my labors. I did have pain meds. when I could have them, but not an epidural. I also never had an episiotomy because once my babies wanted to come out they didn't wait. Try not to think of all the bad things that can happen. If it were really that bad to be pregnant and give birth, the population would have died out millions of years ago. Diane
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