Hi, Banana Bread, and welcome to the fibromyalgia forum! We have all been told that it's all in our heads so you are not alone there. It's difficult when your spouse thinks that but I think I can arm you with some information to help you and to help him understand this illness.
Check out the Fibro 101 thread...the second thread on the forum. There are links to good info about fibro. There is a link to symptoms and there is a link called, "Doctors Respond to New York Times Article". I really like this link because learned doctors explain fibromyalgia so well and that helps to prove that it is not all in our heads.
There is also a link in there about malic acid/magnesium supplements. I started using these last December and they have helped me a lot with pain and fatigue. In that link there are other links that explain how it works in the body. Now, malic acid is found in apples and magnesium is found in a variety of foods so this supplement may be alright for you to try while breast feeding. Ask your doctor and see what they say. It doesn't work for everyone, but many members have had good success with it.
Hot showers, rice bags or Bed Buddies are wonderful. Moist heat helps a lot. The rice bags and Bed Buddy are heated in the microwave and give off moist heat. Gentle stretching exercises help a lot too. There is a link to them in the Fibro 101 thread, too. You need to keep moving. The more you move the better you feel. If you sit or lay too much, you will be stiff as a board. I like gentle massages too. They have helped me feel better.
Besides reading the Fibro 101 thread, read back posts. There is a world of information in them. Also, ask questions here. We have a great group of people that have good ideas on how to live with fibro and have a full and enjoyable life. Keep a positive outlook on life and laugh...especially where the fibro fog is concerned. Count your many blessing and focus on things other than the pain and it does seem to fade in the background. Your baby will help in that department.
I'm so glad you joined us and I hope to hear more from you soon.
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