I've been through what your going through myself. Different diseases and afflictions but the same kinda day to day can do some things can't do others. What they want to see in those papers is that you can barely help prepare a meal and if you live with anyone make sure to say that they have to do almost all of the cooking and cleaning and shopping. Is this a lie? you betcha but I have seen too many ppl turned down because the state has thought thier abilities were enough to get them a job. I told them I can't stand for more then a few minutes without being in pain and can't sit for more than a few minutes without being in pain and having to constantly change position or lay down to rest. Everything you feel, times that by 10. Tell them you use a cane or walker part time. If they think for any reason that you mignt be able to sit at a desk for any decent amount of time then they figure your trainable in another position with a phone job. They prefer being able to train you then to pay you. It doesnt matter that even if they trained you chances are you would have to quit that job later they want to know about
right now and you have to make a pretty miserable picture of your life.
So when they want to know about
say,doing the dishes,tell them you tried and dropped a plate or you couldnt stand at the sink long enough and had to ask for help. Tell them that there are even times that you need help with personal tasks like bathing. I know it sucks that you cannot be totally honest with these ppl but take it from me,someone who was turned down twice they don't want to know the "real" truth. And yes I even fudged it with the phych appointment they sent me to. Made sure to be out of sorts and soooooooo depressed that it made it hard to get through a day. And they will most likely send you to medical exams by more then one doctor and lay it on thick there too. Have trouble bending over even more then you normally do same for lifting and many other things. show them how much pain you are in even if your having a good day. You do not want to try your best to complete these tasks.
I'm sorry if this sounded harsh but ya know what? I got tired of trying to honestly explain my pain and my life to them. And as much as I laid it on thick during the physical tests one of the things that got me the ssdi was the phych exam for depression. In the results for the physical exams they said they thought they could still find a way to employ me!!!! It's crazy stuff I know. And at first I felt somewhat guilty for what I had to do but not in the end. It's all a great big game they play so be a player if you want any chance at winning this. That's just my personal experience and that of some I know of. Good Luck.
Mom of one gramma to 4 lover to One
Fibromyalgia,IBS,Stroke x2,endometriosis,Diabetes type 2,neuropathic pain,nerve damage due to tailbone removel,nerve damage due to fractured back,deppresion,high blood pressure,severe nausea,atrophy,chronic pain,nerve damage due to botched bladder surgery,torn hip joint,hypoglycymic
Norco(double strength vicodin) 80 to 100 mg @ day
Ms Contin(morphine) 45 mg @ day,Lyrica 600mg @ day