Thanks to everyone who replied, I forgot to say it was my immed family which is what is so hard, I guess when the washing or dishes or ironing builds up they wil have to get up off there butts, but they would make me feel so guilty. My husband is getting a little better of late, does his own ironing now, I just couldnt stand there and get through all those shirts. I can only iron for approx 5 mins at a time, so it is hard. and the dishes arer done with me slumped for support on the sink though sometimes if I ask my husband will do but if I got really bad and couldnt do these things on a longish term it would be a nightmare and I feel they would treat me badly. anyways thanks and thanks chulzie for offer of email, just might take you up.