thought you guys might appreciate this..

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   Posted 12/17/2008 7:25 PM (GMT -7)   
hi everyone,

i had an interesting interaction with my hubby tonight that i thought you guys might appreciate hearing..

as long as i've known him, my dh has been a rabid cross-country skiing fanatic-it's just about his very favorite thing to do in the whole world (he's the only person i know who LOSES weight in the winter! lol) normally he tries to go out on bike rides at least 2 or 3 times a week during the non-winter months so that he can stay in shape for snow season, but this past spring, summer, and fall there was so much going on with his brother's legal issues that he really didn't get much opportunity to bike.

well last night we got about 5 inches of snow and all day today he just could not WAIT for the kids to get home from school so that they could go out on the trail that runs along one of our parks pond and wooded area. (the kids don't ski yet, but a couple of years ago he rigged up a way to strap the kids into their sled, then strap the sled to himself so that he could pull them along behind them-i think he's NUTS, but he loves it and the kids absolutely adore going out with daddy). i tried to warn him that maybe he shouldn't go all out first time out, especially since he wasn't able to keep in as good as shape as he normally does during the summer, but of course he wouldn't listen..rolleyes

well, after they were all out for about an hour or so, they came home cold and shivering like they always do, but the kids were ecstatic to have their first trip out of the season. hubby however, seemed a little..slow. i asked him what was wrong and he winced and said "oh my gosh-everything hurts-every inch of me aches and every single muscle in my body BURNS so bad!!!"..then he paused for a minute and looked at me with the widest eyes-like a little lightbulb had gone off in his head lol-and said "wow-i guess now i know how fibro feels!" (i of course just smiled knowingly and said "hmm mmmm"..i did NOT say "told you so!!" i am quite proud of myself for

to make it even better, after we got the kids bathed and put into bed, hubby took a long epsom salt bath, wrapped himself up in a huge sweater, sweatpants, and wool socks, and proceeded to crawl into bed and pass out before 9:00! (sound familiar to anyone else around here? lol)

now i definitely do not like to see my hubby in pain, and although he's always been pretty understanding about my fibro, it was kind of nice to see the realization of what it feels like really dawn on him. i would NEVER wish this dd on ANYONE, and i am VERY happy that hubby will feel better after a day or two, but did my heart some good to know that even for just a brief moment, he really "got" it.

so, just thought i'd share that..hope everyone is having a happy and relatively pain free day:)


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   Posted 12/17/2008 7:29 PM (GMT -7)   
I know what you mean Danielle. . . Hopefully you will receive more support now that you have the "understanding" :) Sometimes it takes getting into someone else's shoes to really understand :)
Much Love, Hugs, Peace & Comfort :)

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   Posted 12/17/2008 8:07 PM (GMT -7)   
Cross country skiing, if it would only warm up a little, I would be out there. Waiting for the right day. And I will take it slow. I envy the fact that your husband got to go out. And I am use to the achiness.LOL...

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   Posted 12/17/2008 9:26 PM (GMT -7)   
Good story Danielle. Hope you both feel better and that the understanding lasts!

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   Posted 12/18/2008 1:20 AM (GMT -7)   
Danielle, I loved this story.  Thank you for sharing it.  hugs, Denise

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   Posted 12/18/2008 7:14 AM (GMT -7)   
We want people in our lives to be able to relate to what it feels like to live in a fibro body and for a little while your DH will have a taste of it.
I went through a simular thing with abdominal surgery. My DH couldn't understand how I could be hurting weeks after having a foot of my colon removed til he had double hernia surgery.
You handled it very well Danielle without saying anything. turn Many wives that live where there is snow will be out buying skis for their husbands for Christmas today. devil
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   Posted 12/18/2008 11:37 AM (GMT -7)   
This was a great story!  I'm glad your husband REALLY realizes what you are going through now.  When you are having a flare, I bet he'll be helping you even more.  It's wonderful when loved ones finally understand.  I hpe he is feeling much better now.
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   Posted 12/19/2008 6:25 AM (GMT -7)   
Loved your story Danielle!
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