My daughter is having surgery on Febuary 23 rd. I just talked to her and she will need me to stay at her home for 5 days to care for her children and basically run the house while her hubby is there. Most of you know the my SIL and I knock heads and the only time I am at their house is when my daughter is home and running the show and I have never spent the night with him there. Barb is having cosmetic surgery as in getting her breasts done and they will be going under her armpits but still very painful and NO lifting for at least a week over 5 pounds. One of my grandkids is special needs and has tube feeds and many medications through her tube. It is also a nightmare at least one day a week when we try to get her to poop including manual removel of the feces.
I will have to have the 2 older kids up and ready and on the bus by 8am each morning and I will have to have lil kirsten ready for her special bus by 7:45 each morning. There will be a nurse there to help with Kirsten. Then I have to have Danielle ready for her PM kindergarten bus by 12pm and all the older kids will be home by 4pm and a nieghbor will drop them off at home by 4:15 at which time I have to make sure homework gets started and snacks are given out and dinner started. After dinner its baths for all and finish homework and and playtime and in bed by 8:30 and then time to clean house and do laundry and get things ready for the next morning. This and I am a terrible insomniac who alot of times doesnt fall asleep till 3 or 4 am and I will have to be up by 6 am. Barbs hubby will be home but he doesnt do any of the kid stuff and he will be working himself so it will all be on me with Barb only available to ask questions.
I have never had to do this before. Even when I took care of the older kids during preemie births I didnt have a baby to care for and even at 3 yrs old Kirsten is still very much a baby with her special needs. I am terrified of not being able to keep up and omg the pain that will come scares the hell out of me but Barb has noone else. It pisses me off that her husband cant just step in for all of this but there is no way. I know their house better then he does and as for counting on him to have the kids ready for anything no wayyyy. As it is after I go home Barb will have to be living in a pigsty for weeks until she can get back to cleaning cause I know her hubby wont be doing it. I will probably have to come a few days a week to clean for her. I am still shocked that he is taking her to have this surgery done and they will be staying at a special hotel overnight with a nurse there for my daughter ..........oh yeah and I will also be taking care of my daughter too,changing her bandages and bringing her food and helping her bathe omgggggggggggg this is tooooo much!!!!! but what can I do? no other family member to help not unless I could get my brother to help like 1 day but then again probably not because he takes care of his grandson and I doubt that the kids mom would actually step in to take care of her own kid for a few days and with her work schedule it probably would not work. I am having a major panick attack here oh and this is right before refills on my meds so no extra to be able to take when I hurt more. The sleep thing will be the hardest as just when some kids leave there is always another to get ready so no naps either. I always said I didnt know how my daughter did all of this but I guess I am about to find out and doing my granddaughters tube freaks me completely out!!!!! I am going to be resposible for all the babys meds and feedings when the nurse isnt there and there is no way I will be able to remember stuff I will have to ask my daughter every time since writing it all down will be too confusing for me arggggggggggggggggg I am scared!!!!!!!!!!
Mom of one gramma to 4 lover to One
Fibromyalgia,IBS,Stroke x2,endometriosis,Diabetes type 2,neuropathic pain,nerve damage due to tailbone removel,nerve damage due to fractured back,deppresion,high blood pressure,severe nausea,atrophy,chronic pain,nerve damage due to botched bladder surgery,torn hip joint,hypoglycymic
Norco(double strength vicodin) 80 to 100 mg @ day
Ms Contin(morphine) 45 mg @ day,Lyrica 600mg @ day
Post Edited (QTKaren) : 1/13/2009 12:43:55 PM (GMT-7)