Karen, Here is a word I have learned in the past few years that has helped me immensely: NO!!!!
I am sorry but I can't even imagine them asking you knowing your medical history. If this was a life saving surgery then I probably would have a whole different answer. Not that you should do it all but help. But this is cosmetic, elective, not necessary surgery. If they can't afford to pay someone to come in & help, then she shouldn't be doing it.
You are living in your own home & have your own necessary things that need done. Your lazy SIL needs to take care of his own responsibilities, this is his wife, his kids & his home. All his responsibilities. Please don't be guilted into doing this. Please think of yourself. They can afford to pay someone to do even part of the stuff that needs to be done. I say for $20.00 you should say you will get the kids off to each of their schools & then go home for the day. When you daughter is home then they can hire someone to care for her & the children if your Lazy SIL won't do it. Yes the 20.00 was an insult, no one else would do it for that so lets get "Mom". No way & if you need me to I will be there in a flash to back you up. Please, please, please say No & think of yourself because believe me, they are not thinking of you, just themselves. Very Selfish people. I know she is your daughter & you love her, I love each of my children dearly, but I have laid down the law & have quit being the fill in & the free or cheap helper. Let me know if you need some help with this. I will write them a letter telling them "NO". I am so good at it now. Many, many gentle hugs, Denise
I have: Fibromyalgia, CFS, Holt-Oram Syndrome, nasal allergies, depression, TMJ
Meds: Ibuprofen 600mg every 4-6 hours, Cyclobenzaprine 10 mg, Simvastatin 20mg, Citaloram 20mg Melatonin 5mg Sublingual, B12 sublingual, B Complex, Folic Acid, Omega 3
Married to a wonderful supportive husband & between us we have 4 children & 7 grandchildren
As apples of gold in silver carvings is a word spoken at the right time for it. Prov. 25:11