Amber, welcome! You have gotten excellent responses on this thread. The biggest thing you can do is try to understand this illness. It can be a mind boggler!
We have a thread called Fibro 101...the second thread on the forum. There are links to good information about fibromyalgia there. There is a link to some gentle stretching exercises that might help your boyfriend, too. You BOTH could get a lot out of that thread and all the links that it holds.
Moist heat is good for fibromyalgia and also many members have a Bed Buddy. You can get them at Walgreen's and other places. But, you can make one by using a tube sock, fill it 2/3's full of raw long grain rice, and tie a knot on the end. This can be put in the microwave and it gives off moist heat due to the moisture in the rice!
It's important that your boyfriend stay as active as possible. The stretching exercises do help and walking is good, too. The more you move the more flexible you are. If you sit or lay too much, you will be stiff as a board with fibromyalgia.
The counseling would be good if he is holding a lot of anger inside. That causes stress and stress causes pain. The pain causes more anger and stress...on and on and on. I hope he can rid himself of some of that anger. I do think fibromyalgia is especially difficult for men to grasp. They are used to being the strong ones, able to take on the world! But, fibromyalgia can bring you to your knees.
It would be wonderful if you could get your boyfriend to come on the forum and read and ask questions. We do have several men on the board and they are all quite helpful, too. See what you can do.
I hope this helps you.
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