Hi, Debbie! First of all, you shouldn't feel like you are "bothering" any doctor. After all, YOU are paying him/her so that makes YOU the boss! You are hiring him/her to help you with your health...just like you would hire a professional plumber to help you with a plumbing leak in your home. There are doctors out there that think they are gods and yours just might be one of them.
If I were you, I'd get on the phone and start calling doctors to see if they treat patients with fibromyalgia. Just flat out ask them! You could call Internists or Rheumatologists. They might even have it listed in an ad in the phone book. Maybe even the hospital can guide you to a good doctor. But, you do want a doctor that believes in fibromyalgia. That's how you will get help. It has to be so frustrating to go to your doctor for help and not get any. We have doctors like that in the States and, believe me, I'd "fire" them!
You mentioned that your gynecologist knew that fibromyalgia was being researched in America so they might be keeping on top of the new things in medicine. You might try calling them and see if they know of a doctor that is treating patients with fibromyalgia. You might be surprised.
Guess what? I just did a search and found this site showing doctors in the UK that are "fibromyalgia friendly"! Hope one is near you! Here is the link.
Yes, we are in different countries but fibromyalgia doesn't only affect Americans! What a stupid statement...we are different over here. Baloney! He's just ignorant about fibromyalgia and doesn't know how to treat it. That' my humble opinion.
I hope this helps you, Debbie. Let us know what you find out.