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   Posted 2/14/2009 3:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Am I the only one who doesn't like Valentine's Day? To me, it's just another day that tells me that I have no special someone in my life. And while I desperately want someone like that in my life, I refuse to settle. Sure, sometimes I take "Mr Right Now" instead of waiting for "Mr. Right." redface I often wonder how some of these people in the world find love. I think, "if THEY can find someone, why can't I?" confused

Am I doomed to be alone forever? cry Am I the only one who feels this way?

BTW-I'm having a pity party if anyone wants to come. wink
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   Posted 2/14/2009 4:52 PM (GMT -7)   
I'll come to your party. I know how you feel. I dont exactly hate valentines day cause my daughter made me a picture this morning saying I was the best mommy ever, which made me cry. But I have nobody special in my life right now but out of choice, but days like this makes me wish I did. But I just talked to my friend and we might go out to hte movies tonight if I can find a babysitter.

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   Posted 2/14/2009 5:07 PM (GMT -7)   
Awww **hugs** for you two, I am so proud of both of you for not just settling for someone that fills a small space for a short time. I agree with you about v-day; in my opinion v-day is for lovers, not married people. I remember v-day when I was single, and I always felt a little odd-out until I came to the conclusion that this is exactly what "they" wanted- it was a conspiracy!! LOL gals, your lovely bachelorette-ness. Run around and dance nekkid! Sing along to your favorite songs- loud! This is YOUR day- grab and feel empowered. *mwah*
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   Posted 2/14/2009 5:19 PM (GMT -7)   
Awe, I think that Valentines is just another day for the stores to make money. Roses go from a normal of 20.00 a dozen to 60.00 a dozen. Chocolate everywhere you look. I gain weight just looking at it. So Don't Feel Bad... You are saving yourself from self indulgance. And many, many calories. It is just another day to me.

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   Posted 2/14/2009 10:15 PM (GMT -7)   


Just another day for people to spend money! I have 2 sisters who are single. One thinks she always needs a man in her life. She is divorced but has gone back and forth with her ex and whoever else she meets. She tells me she can't make it alone. The thing is, she is so unhappy and most of the time these guys are wrong for her.

Now, my other sister is the smart one! She got divorced 15 years ago and loves being single. She says she has her kids and family, so she doesn't feel lonely. She doesn't go looking for men and enjoys her privacy. She is much happier than my sister who thinks she has to have someone there for her all the time.

So, I guess it depends on the person. The right one will come along for you and waiting for the right one is the best way to go. It will be well worth the wait!

Hugs!!  Margie

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   Posted 2/15/2009 1:44 AM (GMT -7)   
I think romance is over rated and always have.

Long lasting relationships in which both people are fairly content are nothing like what the media and commercialism make them up to be. I have been divorced for some time now but when I was married I considered Valentine's Day to be too commercial.

I applaud when people show their love and devotion to each other. However, I am appalled by the highly priced tokens of love that are promoted.

This year, the markets are capitalizing on people's fear of the future, economically. the holiday season was not as profitable as desired so advertising will be devoted heavily to days like this.

Okay, off the soap box.

To those of you with mates in your life, I say have fun. I am a firm believer in loving, warm and companionable relationships. Enjoy.


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   Posted 2/15/2009 8:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Awww Kelly I'm sad for you. cry Maybe now that you have your own place you can start getting out and meeting people. Are you allowed to have pets in your apartment??? You could get a four legged friend till Mr. Right comes along. I have a 38 yr old nephew if you would like to support someone the rest of your life. devil
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   Posted 2/15/2009 1:26 PM (GMT -7)   

Actually, I am gonna get a kitty soon. I'm sort of adopting her from this man who had to go into a nursing home. She's 14 years old, and I just don't want to see her go to the shelter. There aren't many people who want a 14 year old cat. So, I said I'd take her. It's just a matter of getting things "kitty proofed" in my apartment. So much has happened in my life, it's been really hard to finish everything. With my grandma dying and then my mom's friend's mother dying today, things have been crazy.

Anyway, about that nephew...I can barely support myself right now. If he's just some adult child, then I'll have to say, "no thanks." Remember, I won't settle! nono
FINALLY dxd with fibro on 06/13/08
Neurontin, Ibuprofen for pain-which doesn't help
Zoloft & methadone (NOT for pain) for sanity-which doesn't help, BTW
Klonopin for anxiety (Guess what?  Doesn't help!)
Aciphex for reflux
Quit smoking 08/29/08 (used Chantix)
"I'll take the Chivas instead"
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   Posted 2/15/2009 5:21 PM (GMT -7)   

Good for you for not settling! I was single for many years (and a single mother, no less..makes dating difficult) and oh, I was lonely so much. I dated a few guys but they were basically children in adult bodies, and my need to be respected and loved fully and completely eventually won out over my need to just have someone in my life. Then along came B. He was a wonderful man-intelligent, funny, kind, considerate, good job. He quickly became my best friend. He wanted to have a romantic relationship with me, but I kept holding back. Even though on the outside he seemed perfect, he just wasn', you know? Unfortunately our friendship suffered from my reluctance, and for awhile I thought-oh man I just made a horrible mistake. But then you know what? Very shortly after, into my life walked the man who is now my husband. If I had resigned myself to that relationship with B even though it didn't feel quite right, I would've missed out on my "meant to be!" Funny how life works like that sometimes, isn't it?

I guess was I'm trying to say to you is this-hold out for what you really want. I know how hard the single life can be sometimes and how lonely it gets, but the guy for you is out there somewhere. He really is! Until he shows up, though, just stick your tongue out at Valentine's Day and be happy to be who you are :-)

Another thing I will say, though, is that the "real deal" is soooo much work. I had this misconception that once "the one" came along, poof! life would be perfect! Hahaha, was I wrong! I've never worked so hard at anything in my life! (except motherhood) But it is so, so worth it. Grownup love is awesome! :-)

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   Posted 2/16/2009 8:11 AM (GMT -7)   
I agree I think that when you love someone you should show it all week not with ovder priced flowers or those awful heart shaped tacky candies where you end up throwing away the 15 peices you hate and only like 2. I think that valentines day is just another way for retailers to make more money. give me a pack of m&ms and a coke I will be happy.

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   Posted 2/16/2009 12:28 PM (GMT -7)   

My DH and I spent V-Day in a very romantic way. We went to my DM's house, which is empty, to repair some things to prepare the house for sale. My DM is in the hospital again, and my sons and I went to her house on Friday to do the painting. DH and I had to replace the toilet seat, toitet paper holder, screen door closer, etc. He does this to help me as I can't lift and turn things like I used to. He also does it b/e he loves my DM.

I'm not into chocolate, I love flowers, but Not cut ones - too expensive. Don't wear jewelry. He gives me little love notes, calls me on his break at work. He will get the things off the high shelves, so I don't climb the step ladder. He gives me hugs and kisses for 'no' particular reason, except the best reason - he loves me. He rubs my back, which is my weakest and most painful area. He looks at me w/ that sweet look in his eyes. He is a good man, husband, father, and SIL. I would rather that yr round Valentine that one day a yr.

V-Day was the day we got engaged and also our 1/2 yr anniversary. I like that he remembers that about the date more that V-Day aspect of it.

You do have a special someone in your life, Kelly. That is you. Someday you will also find the right man who will appreciate how wonderful you are. I was happy to hear about your new cat-to-be. Hope she comes home to you soon.

God bless.  Alice.

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