I'm so sorry your romantic evening didn't turn out quite the way you wanted it to. Isn't it just the pits how fibro can steal our joy this way? (or at least try to!) We get all excited about
going out and having a good time, and then fibro rears its ugly head and reminds us of how things are now. I really feel for you on this one and I'm sorry you weren't able to enjoy your evening as much as you would have liked to.
We fibro-mites are a strong bunch, though, and do end up doing things for those we love that we might not exactly feel up to doing. It's like the threat that...Marlee started? (I think it was Marlee??) about
how our love for others can drive us to get things done. I think we fibro-mites do this all the time. I know it's definitely one of the things that keeps me going!
I do a lot of things for love that I otherwise might not do. Like, get dressed every day without fail. Oh, there are days when I want to do nothing but lie around in my pj's (and once in awhile I do do this), but I want my loved ones to know I'm really "here" with them. That I'm putting in that effort to be an active part of their days. I also will play games with my kids when I don't feel up to it and go spend time at my son's preschool even though it wears me out terribly, keep the house picked up so that my family can live in reasonably clean surroundings, walk my little dog, talk on the phone with my sister when she needs an ear even though long phone conversations hurt my shoulders and/or hands, dye my daughter's hair every few months even though holding my arms up like that KILLS, hang out and chat with my father (who loooooves to talk and talk and talk!) even though I might be exhausted, keep up with my school work so that I can give my kids a better future, have my in-laws over for coffee or dinner once in awhile even though it wears me out (this is more out of a love for my husband than a love for my in laws..lol)...oh, man. the list is endless, really, the things I do for others out of love, even though it may hurt me. Another big one is intimacy with my hubby. This is not to say that I don't enjoy this time with him at all, but it can really be quite painful. I take the time for this, though, because I know it makes him feel loved and I know it brings us closer.
Also, I do things like try to eat well and exercise and go easy on myself out of love for ME. Self love is something I've really had to learn (I've struggled terribly with low self esteem for years, but I've been really working on it since I met my hubby). Of course, you could also say I try and take gentle care of myself out of love for my family, too.
I think we should all be applauded for how much we do for our loved ones, not because we're martyrs or gluttons for punishment, but because we are kind and loving people who refuse to let this dd rob us of our ability to express that love. And I know most of the time, we do these things without complaint because we would never want our loved ones to feel bad or responsible for our pain. So, I say-Hooray for fibromites!!!! :)
I do have to say, though, that when I saw this thread title, my immediate thought was "...like walking in the rain and the snow when there's nowhere to go.." LOL. Am I showing my age here??
I hope you're feeling a bit better today, Patti. Good luck to you on your casino trip, too. I do hope you are able to enjoy it and don't feel too worn down afterwards.
love and hugs
~daniellefibromyalgia, ibs, gerd, anxietyWe either make ourselves happy or miserable. The amount of work is the same.~Carlos CastanedaI wish you all the joy that you can wish.~William ShakespeareHousework, if you do it right, will kill you.~Erma Bombeck