Everyone with fibro is different and the pain and fatigue is different for all of us, for me the fatigue is the biggest issue most of the time. However, I found out the hard way that you can't just sit and do nothing it is not only worse on the body but it doesn't help the depression either. There are stretching exercises in the fibro 101 thread, second on first page. I know the weather isn't nice enough to get out and walk, although day before yesterday it got up to almost 60 here and I couldn't wait to take my puppy for a walk cause I swear she smiles everytime we go for a walk so she does inspire me to get out there when ever possible.
about pushing your wife, I have a very loving, supportive, helpful husband but back in the fall we found out he had some heart issues and he has been in the hos three times for that. I didn't realize how much he does around the house until he was no longer able to do it. I also found out when he was 45 minutes away from home in the hospital and he was the one that needed me that I could do a lot more than I thought I could, yeah my body paid for it, but I did it. No, I don't want that kind of stress again for a long time to come. So are you enabling your wife to not do all she can or are you helping her??? Yes, I'm very happy that he is on the mend and I do appreciate what he does to help out but I think I'm pushing myself more because of what we went through, yeah there are days when the fatigue is so bad or I hurt really bad that I do have to give in but I'm trying harder.
You say you have adult children, do you have a pet that needs your wife's attention that makes her get up even when she doesn't want to??? I know getting a puppy last fall after losing our old dog was the best thing I could have done for myself cause she needs me and I have to take care of her no matter how bad I feel so you may think about that.
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