Coping with work and baby...

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Date Joined Mar 2009
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   Posted 3/13/2009 6:11 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello, all! I am new here. I was diagnosed with fibro 15 years ago (when I was 17); it's a part of my life and I don't really remember not having it. I don't remember what it feels like to not be in pain.

I like to think that fibro has not taken a primary role in my life. Until now, I've been very effective at denying and trying to ignore my pain. The more I thought about my pain, the more I felt it, so I just didn't think about it, register it, or let myself believe it was real. At least that's what I thought I was doing, but I think I just adapted my life to accommodate my pain (like sleeping when I got home from work).

Regardless, that is not working for me anymore. I am in my 30s, have a 12 month old, and am working full-time. I am spent. I can't ignore it any longer, and am wondering how other working mothers deal with it? I don't have the luxury of coming home and napping anymore. My husband works evenings, so I do dinner, bath, and bedtime all by myself. I have a few minutes to myself, then I go to bed, sleep poorly, get up at 5:30, repeat. smhair (Thankfully, if my son does wake up in the night, my husband takes care of him).

Any strategies will be helpful. I'd love to stop working, but at this point, I really don't think that is a option, financially .


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   Posted 3/13/2009 7:44 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh Carm I can sort of relate even though I was not officially diagnosed when I had my second child it got tough. My kids were 18 months apart I worked 6 days a week and 2 nights. I had appx. 20 houses I cleaned two babies and a husband who was a work aholic. As if I wasnt we were trying to get money togather to buy our own house. I felt like I was in a fog I hurt my hands would go numb and I dropped my daughter she was only 4 months dr. said I had tendonitis ok what about my back and legs he flat out told me I needed to stop complaining that people were alot sicker than me and dieing of cancer it was just the facts of life when you start to age and working as hard as I was. I never went back to him I was 24 I was not aging...I later found out his wife was battleing cancer at the time. After we bought our house I stopeed cleaning houses and got an office job things did not get better they actually got worse and worse I left there and stayed at home for a few years and now I am back to cleaning.. I found that i have to take a multi vitamin extra d and a b complex. I also take the malic acid It helps alot I do stretches every day and I try to do them a little differnt each day. as to not get bored as you can tell I LIKE TO BE BUSY If it was not for all the vitamins I take I would honestly not be able to function. I try to do deep breathing exercises 4 times a day.... It also helps also do you take any medications from DR if so it may be time to adjust them the only thing I take is amitriptalne at night before bed it helps alot for sleep. Hope fully this helped a little.

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   Posted 3/17/2009 2:06 AM (GMT -7)   
I do not know how you do it Carm. All I can say is that you are a wonderful mom and wife but, something has got to go.

You must take care of yourself before you completely break down. Can you do something easier. I know a day care is not easier but at least it is at home.

Just do nice things for yourself, daily.

Donnaeil, mom of three grown babies now
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