Fireandice, that's teenagers for you. I went through a lot of that stuff, too. I was sick with Crohn's when my children were toddlers so they never had a "well" Mom. I couldn't even take them on a picnic! But, I knew in my heart I was doing the very best I could with my health the way it was/is.
Hurtful things are said but you can't take it to heart. The kids are young and think they are adults and can say whatever. Plus, you had just punished him for his poor grades. He was angry and he probably knew you could hear him, too. He doesn't hate you...he's just really angry with you right now but that will pass. I had hurtful things said to me, too, and now that my children are fully grown, they just can't do enough for me and they realize I really was a good Mom. I always told them that I loved them BUT I was not out to win a popularity contest. I was going to do what I felt was best for them.
Even though I was hurt, I never let on. I figured that if they knew things bothered me, they would do it all the more, so I just played it cool. Also, as Marlee said, when there is a divorce, kids are smart and will play one parent against the other. You and your ex need to get your heads together so this "game" isn't being played. Your children really do love you and they will realize it more and more as they grow in maturity.
Now, you see, I started talking about me, too! LOL I do that all of the time because that's how I can relate to people about my experiences. That's what you are doing too. So don't feel badly that your discussions talk about you. You are here for help and to give help and you can only go by your personal experiences.
So, since you are now a part of this fibro family I feel I can say this. Stop the negative thinking! You are a part of this family and we really care about everyone...including little ol' you! You have a lot on your plate and you are handling it. It isn't easy raising teenagers and here you are doing it by yourself when you suffer from chronic pain! Goodness, Girl, you are amazing! So, don't put yourself down. You have a lot to give and are giving it. We will be here for you but try not to be so hard on yourself. Think of all the good things you do for your family. I'm sure that list is longer than you realize. Put a smile on that face and be determined to enjoy your life.
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