Welcome to the Healing Well Fibro Family!!! This is an awesome site full of people that really care. I'm amazed at how supportive and wonderful everyone here is.
You sound like a wonderful father and a guy who's been through a lot in his lifetime. I agree with Chutzie.. go back and read you own post. You're doing a awesome job!!! Losing your wife and taking care of those boys is tough enough and then to wind up with this dreadful diagnosis, it can be a lot to handle, let alone working and dealing with all the BS that come with a job like yours.
My GP is my Fibro Doc. and he does a good job. He also does accupunture, unfortunatly my insurance doesn't cover the accupunture, but my doc. understands chronic pain. Anyway, it does sound like you might need some adjustments on your meds. Hopefully after that you'll get some relief. The fog is a constant problem for me too.. I don't know if fatigue feeds the fog or vise-a-versa, all I know is between the two of them life can be challenging then throw in pain for good measure and ... well.. you already know.
The good thing is you might have a new doctor that can help, sometimes it take trying different med therapies, PT, yoga, whatever and you'll be on the right road. The other good thing is you've found this site. Where everyone understands what you're going through and is here waiting to help.
The most important thing is take care of yourself. Try not to get overly stressed and learn to relax. (Much easier said than done). Something that I have found to work well is massage, moist heat and getting good sleep hygene.
Again, welcome, I hope you'll keep posting and feel at home with this great group.
Fibormyalgia, 4x Lyme Disease Survivor, Depression, Anxiety Disorder, Dyslexia, 2 Lumbar Disk Herniations, Allergies, Bi-lateral Carpal Tunnel, Psoriasis.
Meds = Elavil, Tramadol, Xanax, Lipitor
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