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   Posted 3/30/2009 6:33 PM (GMT -7)   
I woke up this morning to my husband snoring again...he was suppose to be @ work but apparently he pulled a muscle and was to sore to work. Well if he had 1/2 the pain I experience every day the man would be in an institution!!!  I have had JRA since I was 6, then diagnosed with hyothyroid, then a lichen schlerosis(thinning of the skin) OUCH!! then celiac disease  then the finally, Fibro~~ I know this sounds like I am feeling sorry for myself, well i guess today I am!! I get up every day and take care of our 2 children, I work 40+ hours a week in real estate, which for me is getting more difficult every day!! The walking, talking, contract writting is killing me, by the end of the day I am numb. There are days when the words just don't come out right and the walking is like i have 200lb weights on my body. I pretend all day that nothing is wrong. I AM SUPERWOMAN!!  Well I guess my husband was in to much pain today to pick up the phone and wish me a Happy 43rd Birthday today, I came home to no cake, no candles....not even a happy birthday. maybe he will remember tomorrow.  
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   Posted 3/30/2009 6:54 PM (GMT -7)   


yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah

I am so sorry that your hubby didn't make you feel special today, so I wanted to make sure you felt special coming here!! smilewinkgrin

I know how hard it is to work and raise kids and struggle with this dd-I think you ARE a superwoman for doing all that you do! But sometimes even superwomen have to slow down and go easy on themselves-especially if that woman has fibro. So, please-on this birthday and every day-go gentle on yourself and remember that YOU matter, too!
love and hugs

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I wish you all the joy that you can wish.~William Shakespeare

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   Posted 3/30/2009 7:05 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Danielle!! ~~
I read so many sad stories where husbands don't understand, I would think that my husband would, he working in the medical field. I think that he tunes me out because he deals with sick people all day long or he is in denial because he needs his SUPERWOMAN to keep the household in tact.  
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   Posted 3/30/2009 7:13 PM (GMT -7)   
You know, I think it was our dear (male) Jokat who once posted something about how husbands can sometimes act like real you know whats with regards to fibro because they feel powerless to "fix" us and don't know what to do, so they withdraw and become difficult. Because, as he pointed out, fibro affects everyone. Not just us-but our husbands (or wives) and our kids and our parents and siblings and friends and so on. I'm not trying to excuse unhelpful or unsupportive behavior, but sometimes I think our S.O's, etc. can act really crappy towards us because they don't know what else to do. Sadly, our culture puts the thin/beautiful/healthy people up on pedestals and many people don't know what to do when they are faced with someone who doesn't fit the bill-especially when it's someone they love very much who USED to be active and healthy and energetic.

Oh, I'm not sure if I'm even making sense..lol-sorry about that! I guess what I'm trying to say is sometimes when we realize that our loved ones struggle, too, and aren't being big poop heads to hurt us, it can make it hurt a little less sometimes.

Still no excuse for forgetting your birthday, though! I think he now owes you a super nice present! :-)
love and hugs

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We either make ourselves happy or miserable. The amount of work is the same.~Carlos Castaneda

I wish you all the joy that you can wish.~William Shakespeare

Housework, if you do it right, will kill you.~Erma Bombeck

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   Posted 3/30/2009 9:44 PM (GMT -7)   

redface  Happy Birthday to you! smhair

Happy Birthday to you! yeah

Happy Birthday Dear SUPERWOMAN!!!!!!! turn
Happy Birthday to you!!!! smilewinkgrin
And lots of huuuuuuuuuuugggggggggssssssssssss  (gentle one's of course) nono
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   Posted 3/30/2009 11:54 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Kristine!

And I do truly wish you were having a happy birthday. We care! and I am in awe of how much you do. One thing that was the hardest for me to accept was that I can't do it all...nor do I need to. I felt I had something to prove, had to be there for everyone, etc... we all know the drill. But slowly I'm working on accepting my limitations and to be the best I can with what I've been dealt. That doesn't mean I have to do it all...or even a lot most days but I do what I can.

I do know the pain of not having hubby even mention your birthday. Mine is a sweetheart but gifts and celebrations are not his thing....at least not for him being the "doer". He loves when I fuss over him and would be devastated, quietly, if I didn't do anything but doesn't seem to be bothered by not reciprocating. It hurts your heart and you have every right to feel sorry for yourself. The least he could have done was say something...anything. IMHO, the world is made of givers and takers...

Enough said...warm birthday hugs,
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   Posted 3/31/2009 3:56 AM (GMT -7)   
Awww..Kristine, I'm sorry your husband was being a knuckle head!!!  Sometimes our spouses can be SO insensitive. 
I'm a day late.. so Happy Be-Lated Birthday!!!!  I hope you did something special just for YOU!!!
Hmmm?!?!  Maybe you should forget his b-day this year.  That way you can give him the same present he gave you!!  Ooo.. sometimes I can be a little vendictive!! 
I used to be a realtor.. I bet it IS tough right now.  I got out of it about 5 years ago.  I know what its like to live in that rat race.  There were days that were just nuts.  Honestly, I let my license go.  I really didn't love that kind of work.
So.. if you didn't do something special just for you.. set something up today, like a visit to a spa or massage or something.  You most definatly deserve it!!!
Happy Birthday Hugs...
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   Posted 3/31/2009 4:12 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi All,

Thank you sooooo much for your kind words, advice and support!! I am having a good cry right now!!! I guess I needed it. sad

 Well I need to get my son on the bus, and me off to work...again thank you for letting me vent, I feel much better tongue !!
My birthday wish is to find a cure for all that hurt.
~~~Hugs, Kristine
Rhuematoid Arthritis;Thyroid Disease;Celiac Sprue;Lichen Schleorosis;Fibromyalgia

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   Posted 3/31/2009 5:55 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm a day late, but Happy, Happy, Happy Birthday and cyber ((((hugs))))! 
While most of the time I do get a birthday present (usually something I've picked out), Valentine's Day, Anniversaries, and sometimes Christmas go by unnoticed.  Maybe it's just a guy thing. 
Your fibro family does understand and is always here with a gentle hug, a word of encouragement, or a shoulder to cry on if needed.  :-)   
"There is no charm equal to tenderness of  heart." - Jane Austen
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   Posted 3/31/2009 6:39 AM (GMT -7)   

Happy Belated Birthday Kristine! 


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   Posted 3/31/2009 7:05 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm a day late too Kristine but HAPPY BIRTHDAY. Men can be insensitive jerks sometimes. It is a well known fact that women are the stronger sex and very few men could do what women do everyday, with or without fibro.
Yes we have a couple of men on here that do very well with handling fibro.
luv and hugs
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   Posted 3/31/2009 8:40 AM (GMT -7)   
I also am a day late and I am very sorry. Do what I did to my ex boyfriend one year. I sent myself flowers, on his credit card. And thanked him constantly for being so thoughtful to remember. He never forgot again in the five years we were together.
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   Posted 3/31/2009 8:48 AM (GMT -7)   
Happy Happy belated Birthday greetings...sorry I missed it....

My hubby forgot mine last year too, but it happens,
go search the internet and get your self something special you deserve it and don't hold back..
Here's to some cyber champaign for you from me...

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   Posted 3/31/2009 1:48 PM (GMT -7)   
Hapy birthday!  Hope your hubby remembers today.  Just think of all of the things he'll do to make up for missing your birthday!  There's a good side to everything.
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   Posted 3/31/2009 8:10 PM (GMT -7)   
Happy Birthday. Go out and buy yourself some nice gifts.


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   Posted 4/1/2009 9:21 AM (GMT -7)   
Did he remember yet?

Anyway, happy belated birthday!
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