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   Posted 4/23/2009 7:32 AM (GMT -7)   
cry Does anyone have a problem shopping?  Last night I went food shopping usually I take my kids and husband because it can be alot of work.  Well anyway I felt fine going in, but as soon as I started walking and pushing the cart, my legs got weak and I became dizzy.  I didn't think I would make it through the trip.  I then rush buy things I don't need and forget items.  This happens to me in walmart and target to.  I use to love to shop now I rather buy the things I need online.  I feel like I can't do anything on my own, I always need someone there to help.  I use to think it was anixety but now I think it is the fibro.  Something to do with the lights.  I have the same problem driving with sunlight.  Does anyone else have this problem?  How do you deal without losing your self respect? 

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   Posted 4/23/2009 7:53 AM (GMT -7)   
I get dizzy often, too. Didn't connect it to the fibro until now!

I understand your frustration about forgetting things and buying things you don't need. I never go shopping without a list anymore. That way I am pretty sure that I will at least get the things I need ;-)

If walking becomes very difficult for you, try using one of the motorized carts that some stores have. I know Wal-Mart has them.

Do you wear sunglasses in the sunlight? I know that I need to wear sunglasses year-round. The polarized ones work the best for me.

I am a big fan of on-line shopping :-) I even do my food shopping on-line when I get really busy and can't findthe time to go to the store myself.

I hope I've helped a little bit.

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   Posted 4/23/2009 7:55 AM (GMT -7)   
Good Morning Anne,

You are not losing your self respect!!! Yes, this is the most difficult thing I have been through but you will do it.

Wanted to respond mainly because shopping is a nightmare for me. One day in Publix I had to leave my cart and just go. That has only happened once thank goodness. Yes, for whatever reason shopping is my biggest hurdle. I totally agree about light sensitivity too. The sunshine just kills my eyes. We become very sensitive to external stimuli for whatever reason.

Now when I market I do it in smaller amounts. Yes, this is more tedious but I can handle it better. No more can I do the soup to nuts thing, it kills me. If I had one luxury with this condition it would be someone that markets the way I want it.

Take care,


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   Posted 4/23/2009 8:13 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Anne...I think shopping is one of the most difficult tasks fibromites have to contend with.  I live in the snow belt and pushing carts though ice and slush to the car is impossible for me now.  Unless my husband goes with me, I shop at this little IGA store that is at the end of my street.  Actually, they always have sales and I don't worry about the ten cents I might save at a big chain.  Lights bother me too.  I wear glasses that get dark when they hit the sunlight(the name of them escapes me...THE FOG!) and clip on sunglasses on top of them when I am outside.  Store lights make me dizzy.

Like Patsie said, you are not losing yourself are just trying to deal with a condition in the best way you can.

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   Posted 4/23/2009 8:18 AM (GMT -7)   
It runs in cycles for me. Somedays are good and I can shop well, others I just have to run in and grab.  I sometimes wonder if its something in the store like cleaning products that make me dizzy. I had a horrendous day at the mall, I had such a bad panic attack I ended up in the bathroom stall, just trying to breath through it.

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   Posted 4/23/2009 8:22 AM (GMT -7)   
I wear my sunglasses in walmart, not my dark ones but the slightly tinted ones. I also always have a list or it isn't pretty. Typically my mother comes as my helper and it works. I gave up my issues with needing help because of also being bipolar and having panic disorder. A few grocery stores here have benches in the store, I have no issue with going to one and sitting for a few moments if needed. I hate shopping of any kind now. I only buy clothes at thrift stores, to avoid huge department stores and malls. I also ask for assistance to get the cart to the car, most stores have no issue with doing this. I am a total loss afterwards though. I can do nothing else for two days or so.
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   Posted 4/23/2009 3:00 PM (GMT -7)   
I thought it was just me.  The lights in the stores bother me and I never go outside without dark sunglasses.  Shopping exhausts me. Yesterday I had to go to Walmart, Sally Beauty Supply, and the store where I get my fresh veggies and fruit.  These stores are pretty close together and I only needed a few things from each.  I had to lay down when I got home and I usually do not nap during the day.  Anne, if I have not already said so, WELCOME.  This is a great forum with lots of caring and info. wink
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   Posted 4/23/2009 4:35 PM (GMT -7)   
I too have used the carts at Wal-Mart. I had my 13 year old with me, and she said, 'mom just get one of those carts'. I said, 'you won't feel embarassed?' Shesaid no, I did it and I was glad I did. My doctor gave me a handicap card for my car and I use it on bad days as well. I have had a lot of bad days lately. Jules

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   Posted 4/23/2009 4:53 PM (GMT -7)   
it's called irene syndrome- it's triggered by bright lights- i sometimes use glasses with a blue tint- the dizzyness is probably from fatigue - when i getr dizzy i try to sit down's no big deal having someone help with the shopping- i often forget what i've already put into the cart it helps a lot yo make a list. if your like me wearing sunglasses will also give you a headache and make you dizzy too i donnt think it has to do with self- respect - but you shouldn't feel bad asking others to talk care of the shopping- household chores should be shared- at least that's what i do.............try to get light blue tinted glasses and see if they work.?

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   Posted 4/23/2009 7:50 PM (GMT -7)   
I wear my sunglasses everywhere, even in my classroom. It helps a bit with the florescent lights. I read somewhere that blue tinted glasses are supposed to help but I haven't tried it yet.

When I was really bad, I'd forget my list or forget to look at it, or it wouldn't register anyway. For some reason, I always thought we needed tuna and toilet paper so I'd buy more. I had a roomful of toilet paper, my daughter would build castles and forts with it and have tea parties inside the walls. It wouldn't register in my brain that we had TOO much, so I'd think of it and buy more. I had to stop putting groceries in the trunk because I'd forget about them for days. Not so bad in the winter but really, really bad in the summer.

One time, after trying on pants, I forgot to put mine back on and started to leave the dressing room. Fortunately, a woman pointed it out to me before I went out into public.

The motorized carts help a lot. Look at it as a helpful tool that allows you to do more. Use the things that can help you, it doesn't make you less of a person, it shows that you are a smart person. Anything that helps you do what you want or need to do is a positive thing - it's only negative if you allow yourself to think that way. Don't worry about what others think, most people don't even notice other people.

Losing self respect is a choice. You can choose to lose your respect for yourself or you can choose not to. You and only you are in control of this. This is where positive thinking helps. I'm not saying don't get mad or frustrated or embarrassed. Feel it then move on. Don't dwell on what fibro is taking away. With the ups and downs of fibro, today's challenge may soon be a distant memory (or quickly forgotten when fibrofog flares).

It isn't easy, it may take a lot of work to change your thought patterns. Start slowly with thing that bothers you the most and change the way you think about it. Eventually, it gets easier.

But sometimes, life still stinks.

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   Posted 4/24/2009 8:24 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks everyone for the suggestions. I will give them a try. It is so good to know that I am not the only one that is going through this.

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