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   Posted 5/16/2009 5:15 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi im a 43 year old woman who is sick of feeling lonely and would love to hear from genuine people who feel the same.
I have no car so im stranded and have no friends by choice which I now regret .  Sick of feeling lonely need a reason to enjoy getting up in the morning. 
I have arthritus in every main joint, fibro, ulcerative colonitus and lots of fears.
thanks guys for taking the time to read this.
Fibromyalgia, ulcerative colonitus, arthritus, bi-polar
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   Posted 5/16/2009 7:06 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey Sue -- Sorry you're feeling so down..... With our various 'conditions' I'm sure all of us feel lonely sometimes. But, hang in there! This forum is full of delightful folks who really do care and understand what you are going through. Keep posting whenever you can -- it can take a little while for responses depending on time and what everyone else may be doing.... Thinking about you and hoping you feel better soon... (((hugs)))
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   Posted 5/17/2009 8:11 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi, Sue!  Sure haven't seen you in a while!  Glad you are back.  I do know about being lonely but I keep myself as busy as I can.  Of course the forum is wonderful because I have met so many great people here and we can relate to one another.

It is so important to have friends.  Do you belong to a church?  The churches I have gone to have been very active, wonderful potlucks, and great people to talk to.  If anyone didn't drive, someone would pick them up to get them to church.  So, this could be an option for you and you could start making friendships there.  I have made some great friends from church and we get together for lunch or just good conversation. 

You probably need to get out of the house some, too.  I know you said you don't have a car but many communities have jitney buses that will pick you up and take you where  you need to go.  Or, is there public transportation close by?  I live too far away from town so I'm not close to public transportation but I hope you are close to it. 

Try taking up some hobbies, too.  You can't rely on people to fill your life because everyone is busy.  I love to do genealogy and that helps.  I also do some gardening...nothing heavy.  I bought a book off the Internet all about bonsai and I'm going to give that a try, too.  I hate to sew but, if you like that, you could sew or knit.  You could even donate what you make and that would not only make you happy but someone else, too!  So think about what  you enjoy doing or what you always wanted to learn.  This is a great opportunity to expand your life.

Meanwhile, we are always here for you.  You have given good support in the past and that is greatly appreciated, too.  So, try to get yourself busy and start enjoying your life.  I know you can do it.


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   Posted 5/17/2009 8:43 AM (GMT -7)   
Sue! We all have the horrible isolated feeling. For me that is the worst part of this illness--feeling so different from everyone, body and mind. Pain is so separating. But we are all here for you and know exactly how you feel!
What helps me alot is to wake up each day and think, "What am I going to do to be productive?" I make a plan for my day, a purpose--everyone needs one. Even if all I can do is sweep the porch and walk, I do the best job I can do and reward myself afterwords. It still feels good to accomplish something.
Do you have a pet? Can you? Even a small one like a bird or a fish can give you more purpose to your day and something to look forward to.
I also take small trips to the library. I checked out a book called, "Crafts you can make and sell" and I am having fun cutting up old shirts I no longer wanted and seeing if I can sew dolls out of them.
If nothing seems to give you joy, it may be time to see a therapist. I check in with one once a month. I cant afford to go more often than that.
Keep writing, We are here for you!
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   Posted 5/17/2009 4:50 PM (GMT -7)   
thanks guys.

Fibromyalgia, ulcerative colonitus, arthritus, bi-polar
norspan patch, valium, prothiedon, lyrica

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   Posted 5/17/2009 7:40 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Sue!!

And I'm so glad you have joined us. This is a big warm family so get ready to be I too am guilty of isolating myself so I don't have friends I hang out with. Not a good choice but it's how I am. I have acquaintances but not girlfriends. Sorry to admit it but my friends are my fingertips. We do live in a rural area but I'm content to not leave the house for weeks on end. It's not healthy but I have lots to keep me busy and kids and grandkids next door and others who visit.

Have you ever considered doing some volunteer work? Something that you can do with limited mobility of course. Local libraries are always in need of people who can help and they aren't picky so people like you and I who have pain and limited use of hands, etc are still welcome. I know our library will take anyone who can even wipe down and clean the cover on a book. If you can do more all the better. It would get you out if someone can get you there or you have bus service. Also other volunteers may offer to pick you up.

At least work on making a few new friends here on the forum. I know it's made a world of difference in my life and I would bet it would improve your immensely.

Keep in touch and feel free to email me if you want,
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