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   Posted 5/23/2009 8:12 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi there~  I haven't written for a long time... I have been going through a divorce (second)... hopefully I've learned.  The ultimate reason for the divorce is my weight (5'3" 155#'s) and I think he couldn't handle my Fibro.  I quit my full-time, high paying job to take a less then half paying part-time job.  That bothered him for our loss and I was a different person then who he married.  I went from long hair to shoulder length etc...
I noticed someone wrote about getting off Cymbalta and before my divorce I asked my Dr. if I could get off of it.  I thought it was killing any sex drive I had left.  She said, NO.  She feels it's working for my Fibro.  I have to say whatever I'm doing, I do feel good, tired, but good.  I have minimul pain and my work has accepted me as I am.  They call me Dory (you know that disney character in finding Nimo that loses her memory every few seconds.  I blame Dory at work and everyone jokes about it.  I function well as a Medical Receptionist.  At first it was hard but repatition and notes has saved me as well as a loving staff.  If I forget something I ask my co-worker's if they were talking to Dory or Tricia.  The reason I want off cymbalta now is weight.  Of course my ex has given me such a complex to go back into the single world.  I can't die, I'm only 40 years old.  I am increasing my hours (starting June 1st) due to the fact that I have two girls to raise and I do worry that missing much needed naps and just over doing it.
Do you think cymbalta caused you to gain weight?
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   Posted 5/23/2009 9:18 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm sorry about the divorce Tricia but it doesn't sound like you lost much of a man. I'm glad your wanting to get back out there in the world, sounds like the cymbalta is working. I have not been on cymbalta but I looked it up on medline and weight gain is not listed as side effect but who knows how our bodies react to meds. It does list loss of sexual desire. Could the weight gain be from less activity or eating under the stress of a bad marriage??? I'm 5' 4" and weigh about the same as you do and it's not like your obese by any means. Yeah we could both lose about 20 lbs each. Sounds like your ex is a superficial jerk so please don't let the cruel things he said make you feel bad about yourself. Those kind of people have problems of their own that they like to take out on others.
I'm sure you will hear from those that are on cymbalta or have tried it.
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   Posted 5/23/2009 10:04 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm 5' tall and wish I weighed what you do. Your ex is so mean - my dear hubby would never say those awful things to me. Glad they are good to you at work, though. I too, have fibro fog. Strange thing, isn't it?
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   Posted 5/23/2009 11:41 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi, Tricia! I'm 5'2" and outweigh you by a little bit, but it's not from my Cymbalta -- I haven't gained anything since I went on it. Haven't lost either, darn it..... wink Sometimes I think fibro fog is the pits, but mostly anymore it's kind of funny and just an irritation. Funny to family and irritation to me! blush
So sorry about your divorce; even when you absolutely know it's necessary, it still is stressful and painful. There are lots of folks on this forum that will be thinking about you and sending you good thoughts. Seriously.
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   Posted 5/23/2009 4:52 PM (GMT -7)   
Tricia, it's sooo good to see you again but I'm so sorry that you have had to go through a divorce.  I totally agree with the others.  You aren't that much overweight for that to make a difference.  Even if you were, so what?!!!  It's what is inside the person that counts, not how much they earn, what they weigh, and the length of their hair.  Apparently your husband was totally empty inside to break up a marriage for trite things like these.     He obviously doesn't have health issues.....yet.  But, when he does.....
You are handling things quite well.  First of all, I think you are feeling good because you got rid of Mr. Stress.  I'm glad you have a job you enjoy and have really nice people to work with and for.  I'm glad you have your children and you will make it big time.  And, when you least expect it, someone truly special will probably walk into your life.  I think, after all  you have gone through, you will be a much better judge of character. 
We are here for you so don't be a stranger anymore!
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   Posted 5/24/2009 6:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Tricia - I am sorry too that you had to go through your divorce. I hope that you have really good things ahead of you - you deserve them! I have been on Cymbalta for a while. I have not had a noticeable weight gain. I also tried reducing my dose and then I realized that it was helping more than I thought. My suggestion, from my experience, is not to change too many things at once when you are going through a transitional or stressful time, (which is usually when I want to change things!) Ive found that it only complicates matters for me.

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   Posted 5/24/2009 4:23 PM (GMT -7)   
It's so good to hear from you again.  I have been thinking about you, hoping you were ok. 
First, I want to second what the others said.  You are much better off without him, as he does not sound deserving of YOU!  Your weight gain is not astronomical, Tricia.  If your husband is going to leave you over 20 pounds - really think about that for a minute.  20 pounds??!!  Would you have left him over 20 pounds, or anything so superficial for that matter?  You are really better off without him, Tricia. 
Second, I have noticed I have had great difficulty losing weight with Fibromyalgia itself.  I had my second child 2 1/2 years ago and I am still not quite back down to my pre-baby weight.  With my first child, it took 3 months!!  I tried Cymbalta for a while and it made me completely lose my sex drive and I was unable to enjoy sex once I did have it.  It also increased my fatigue so much that I was falling asleep at 8.  Has your doctor mentioned Savella?  Maybe you would have more luck with it, though since it is new it is a roll of the dice (as with any med).  I am not on any meds, as I seem to feel worse on them no matter which one I try.
I am giving serious thought to trying a gluten free diet.  I have heard some positive reviews and I figure it couldn't hurt.  If it doesn't work, no big deal. 
I know being a single mom is hard and ending a marriage is also difficult.  But, I know you can persevere through, even without your naps.  It sounds like you have a great job and a strong will.  You can get through anything. 
Oh, I almost forgot.  There is a book that helped me so much when I was a single mom.  It's called "Mars and Venus - Starting Over".  It is a really wonderful book and if not for my reading it and following the advice inside it, I do not think my husband and I would have ever gotten married. 
Take care, Tricia.

Post Edited (KerriH) : 5/27/2009 11:19:34 AM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 5/26/2009 6:11 PM (GMT -7)   

Thank you so much for all the wonderful replies.  I have been away so long, I actually forgot how great this group is.  I am doing well, considering all my current challenges.  I do know I'm better off alone then with someone who doesn't love me back.

I have decided that I will keep my medication as is for the time being as one said the transitional time is not the time to alter meds. 

All your comments have really helped me.  I know that it was one of my friends being treated as he has treated me I'd tell her she's better off.  It helps to hear others say it though.

Thank you again and I'll check in more, because it always uplifts me.


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   Posted 5/27/2009 7:53 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Tricia- Sorry to hear about your divorce, but the way it sounds you are better off without him as hard as it may be right now. I gained 13 lbs over the winter and since getting fibro. I do not take Cymbalta. I know mine is from not being able to do the things I used to do, and especially over the long winter months. We are human and not perfect. So all I can say to him is good luck trying to find that perfect person- HA!

Wish you the best and sounds like you have a good job with supportive co-workers!


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