I had a long talk with my daughter and she had alot to say. She said what about her hubby Jade,what a ass he had been and God knows she should have left him long ago. After I stayed at their house when she had surgery I found that I kinda liked Jade. His whole attitude had changed since I saw him last time. He did have a moment of playing the silent games that he did before and I asked just when was he going to talk to Barb and he said when she quit shouting orders and could talk to him in with some respect. Omg he finally had got it! I said so it isnt so pleasant when its you and he said no and I agreed that Barb was being extremly bossy and asking way to much. We bonded I think on that day I told him I hadnt forgot his behavior in the past and he apoligized for that. He even said I was welcome anytime,me the most hated MIL of all time or so he had thought so before. I also watched him during this last visit. Now he still doest do alot of chores around the house but when we sat next to the fire we made (she lives in the country)he gently held his 5 yr old as the fire died down and talked so gently with her and was great with all the kids. This was something I thought I would never see. The kids finally had a dad. He had dinner with the family every night and then had Barb next to him till bedtime,laughing and joking.
Barb told me not to give up on Jayson just yet. That he was stressed from work and was going through something he may not even know what it was but was it showing with his anger. I told Jayson yesterday that we both knew what was coming and he said he would look for a place to stay the next day. I said I didnt think we could make things work and he said why not that it happens to ppl all the time. He gave me the idea that he wanted to try. I asked what about what he said the spark was gone and he said he hadnt thought about sex in weeks and that it was him that had the problem he was very stressed that he had the problem or at least part of it. He has to learn about fibro cause I cant take the demands made of me and I realize he feels trapped not being able to be with me on the days that are set for my surgery because there is noone to open the store and he is stuck. He feels like he cant control my health and it drives him crazy. Maybe it wont work maybe it will, I have to try. I just cant throw 9 years of marriage away when this behavour has just been recent and he did say its been different for 3 years but never said he wasnt happy till now. I now that I will be ok I have a place to go if needed. But I wont be run out of my apartment when he desides it time, I will however spend alot of time with my grandkids and maybe go see my brother not because he says to go but because I need to spend more time with family. Who knows what will happen but my daughter made me see how hard it is for him right now and didnt excuse his behavour(sp) and I told him yesterday what i thought of it too. Keep your fingers crossed that I end up happy one way or another.
Mom of one gramma to 4 lover to One
Had another stroke 2/09 and it took my speach for the most part and dont know when it will coming back. Caused serious stroke symptoms on right side of body.
Fibromyalgia,IBS,Stroke x2,endometriosis,Diabetes type 2,neuropathic pain,nerve damage due to tailbone removel,nerve damage due to fractured back,deppresion,high blood pressure,severe nausea,atrophy,chronic pain,nerve damage due to botched bladder surgery,torn hip joint,hypoglycymic
Norco(double strength vicodin) 80 to 100 mg @ day
Ms Contin(morphine) 45 mg @ day,Lyrica 600mg @ day
Post Edited (QTKaren) : 5/28/2009 12:27:34 PM (GMT-6)