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   Posted 6/6/2009 7:16 AM (GMT -7)   
Hello All.
I haven't posted for a while I have been struggling with the beast and going to my psycologist, which leaves me crying for days and exhausted, as some of you know my ex abused my Daughter Victoria and had an affair with my mother, lied to my parents and 4 brothers and as a result my family have not contacted the children and I since July 08, despite the fact that he told them all what he did to Victoria 2leacing out the bit about the affair with my mother" BUT.......
I have had fabulous news, the local authority have finally given me the house of my choice.  It has 3 bedrooms, so I can keep my youngest son Kane with me and the elder 2 Victoria and Sebastian can come and stay whenever they want, I am so relieved about that, There is a wetroom and stairlift already installed (ideal) and a large garden for my beautiful Rottie Bear, it's been very hard to find a place that would take dogs but I could never leave him, I rescued him in the 1st place.
My children have decided that I am not to clean the house when we leave so my ex can have the pleasure, as we have been cleaning and tidying ready for viewers to see the house as my ex is selling the house, just a small revenge.  devil
The house is in a small village away from here, where my ex and family will not be able to find us, so we can start afresh and i'm sure my health will improve away from here.
I wish you all a painfree, happy weekend :-)
Please wish us luck.
Love and hugs 
Sharon oxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxxo   wink

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   Posted 6/6/2009 7:44 AM (GMT -7)   
I am happy to hear that things seem to be looking up for you. I wish I had a house with three bedrooms. LOL. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope that things go well for you.
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Wipe your hands
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   Posted 6/6/2009 7:58 AM (GMT -7)   

Sharon, this is wonderful news!  Won't it be wonderful to be in a new home, away from the source of most of your problems?  Yes, I do think the fibromyalgia will improve some.  Not many people have an opportunity like this to start over again.  I wish you much happiness in your new home.


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   Posted 6/6/2009 10:03 AM (GMT -7)   
Wow, what fantastic news. Feeling safe is the first lap of the marathon of healing. Having a safe place for you and your children fills that bill. I hope you continued success with feeling better.

I understand how cruel families are when they decide the abuser is the one who should be supported. Enjoy life and your children.


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   Posted 6/6/2009 11:44 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi SassyMyKitty.

Thank you for your message of support, it's great to know I have people to tell my news to and also listen to there news, I don't get that from my family.

I am so looking forward to be able to relax in a safe place with my children, we always seemto be waiting for him to turn up here to cause more trouble.

I hope you are having an easy time and that we can stay in touch.

Love and hugs

Sharon oxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox :-)


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   Posted 6/6/2009 11:54 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Sherrine.

Thank you so much for your reply and your support.

I am very lucky to have this chance to have the opportunity to start afresh but I do wonder why my innocent children had to go through so much pain for it, I too have had to but that's  ok i'm an adult, victoria didn't deserve what he did to her.

We are very excited to be leaving and being able to rest easy in our beds at night, we have friends over there already so that is even nicer.

I hope we can keep in touch so I can be all over excited and tell you how it's all going.

Thank you again.

Love and hugs

oxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox :-)


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   Posted 6/6/2009 12:08 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Donnaeil.

Thank you so very much for your replying to my very exciting news.

I'm affraid I am a bit like a kid in a sweet shop at the moment, I have so many plans for our new home, decorating each room, furnishing it all the way I would like  it  instead of the way he wanted things done.

It will be such a luxury to be able to relax with my kids and no longer worry that my ex will turn up at the door.

I can't wait to see Bear playing in the garden, I am going to get him a companion as he lost his a few months ago and I didn't think it wise to get another until we were settled, another thing for me to get excited about.

I am very lucky to be able to start again and I count my blessings, my only wish would have been that my innocent kids didn't have to go through what they went through to get here.

Thank you again for your support and I hope we can keep in touch.

Love and hugs

oxoxoxoxoxooxoxoxox :-)


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   Posted 6/6/2009 12:54 PM (GMT -7)   
Sharon this is great news and how relieved you must feel. You know guilt can eat us alive if we allow it to and we have to let go of it to move on with our lives. I know when bad things happen to the young in our lives it is hard to not blame ourselves and live with the if I had only done this or that or if I had known what was going to happen I wouldn't have allowed it to happen but we can't foresee the future. I hope you and your children are getting help to deal with everything. Now that the weight of the world is off your shoulders it's time to move on and the scars will always be there for all of you but you all deserve this new start.
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   Posted 6/6/2009 8:16 PM (GMT -7)   
Great news Sharon. You sound really happy and relieved! How exciting!

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   Posted 6/7/2009 1:11 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi marlee.
Thank you for your kind reply.  You are very wise and of course completely right but for me it isn't that easy not to feel guilt, right from chlidhood I have been made responsible for something by my mother, mainly my two younger brothers and household chores.  My psycologist explained that even though I am an adult now if I don't do what I am asked or perceive what people want from me, there will always a conciquence, usually verbal or physical abuse from my mother, so therefor I will feel guilt.
I vividly remember being sent into town to buy knickers for myself with the money I had earned from my paper round but instead of buying knickers I bought my mum a lovely glass Deer with a fawn laying at her feet, I got the biggest hiding of my life when I gave it to her because I needed knickers and she didn't need a Deer, I was 14.  my mother and stepfather still managed to go to the pub 4 nights a week and they both smoked!
I am very slowly learning that these things were not my fault nor responsibility but it is very difficult as it is so deeply ingrained.
Being able to start afresh away from my family, where they are unable to find us will be a huge leap in my healing, something I am looking forward to very much.
Thank you again for your support and wise words.
love and hugs

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   Posted 6/7/2009 1:32 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Statgeek.

Thank you for your reply.Yes I am very relieved to be moving away from here and my family will be my first step to healing the wounds, nevertheless I am very very excited.

I have already redecorated the house and landscaped the garden in my head a hundred times, I really can't wait to have it done for real.

Thank you again for the reply.

Love and hugs oxoxoxoxoxoxoxox :-)


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   Posted 6/8/2009 6:24 AM (GMT -7)   
I can not even imagine what you have been going through- but so happy to read that you can now move on with your life and start anew. And the house will be a great place to start those "good" and "happy" memories!  
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   Posted 6/8/2009 12:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Jill.
Thank you for your kind reply, you are right it will be an opportunity for us to start again, one that I am very grateful for.  We are all looking forward to it so much, as well as us being able to settle, we  are going to find our lovely Rottie, Bear, a companion, he lost his last one 6months ago.
I am sure we will all begin to heal our wounds and be happy again, we have been through a great deal but i'm conviced it has made us closer and stronger and that is something my ex will never be part of.
I will keep in touch as we go along, it's going to be heaven.
I hope you are not in too much pain and are managing to get around to do all you want to do.
Love and hugs
Sharon oxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo wink

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