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   Posted 6/11/2009 1:38 PM (GMT -7)   
I am soooo sick of Los Angeles.   I want to move, but kinda scared.  I lived in AZ (30miles so. of Phx)  for a few yrs in the 90's and I sooo miss the quiet and just plain nice folk. sad
When I went on my vacation to GA to visit my sis, she has made us an offer if we were to move out there.  Sooo tempting!  She has been there for close to 20 yrs. 
I'm 42 with adult children, my dh is 49 and we have his son at home for at least another year.  His dad is kickin' him to the curb as soon as he turns 18 and "hopefully" graduates high school.  (He is a whole other story and part of my "big stress" at home)  I am nervous about the thought of me and my dh, as old as he is, finding another job again.  We are 'blue' collar type workers.   I know I have to take care of some debt first. 
Has anyone my age or even my dh's age move to another state and find employment?  I did all this when I was in my 20's in the best of health.  But this move would be different, because I will finally be close to my sis.  Something we both have wanted for years.  As for my dh, he says "I'll move wherever you want, just let me know when we are going."
We were both born and raised out here in L.A. and its just not the same for us anymore, hasn't been for years. shakehead
Just wanted to share, get it out to someone.  Thanx!
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   Posted 6/11/2009 2:10 PM (GMT -7)   
I don't know how it is now, but my husband found another job when he was 51 and that's how I ended up in Florida.  We did have to look for a while to find the right fit.  If you are seriously thinking about moving then, probably about six months before you are ready, start looking.
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   Posted 6/11/2009 2:18 PM (GMT -7)   

I hear Cheyanne, Wyoming is a good place to live, got some nice people. Job wise I don't know that. It's got clean air quality also.


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   Posted 6/11/2009 2:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Well Monster.com might help with the job situation, and yeah a move will hurt, but do your homework and
find a good moving company and it should make that easier on you...I'm been through 4 military moves and
none of them were easy ..but if your not happy where your at then maybe a move will be a good
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   Posted 6/11/2009 3:11 PM (GMT -7)   
When I was forty I moved my two son ages 8 and 11 from Texas to Virginia. I left behind all my family members to marry a man I had met on the net. We just celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary..it hasn't been an easy road for the hubby and I but we have learned to fight for our marriage because of the love between us. As for my sons, Virginia has given them a solid education and a hope for a better future. Trust your gut. Good Luck

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   Posted 6/12/2009 6:30 AM (GMT -7)   
Lori make sure you find a job first, your sis should know what the job market is in that area. I've given up on my dream of moving south. shakehead It was the grandkids holding us hostage and now it's the great grandson too. Your sure not too old to move if the jobs are there.
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   Posted 6/12/2009 8:34 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanx for the support y'all!

Marlee, my sis has offered for us to stay with her(she has plenty of space)til we can get a place of our own. I know she will never move back here to L.A. She use to live in Minnesota after college. Anyways, she is not married, doesn't have any children. We've been close all our lives, just went way too different paths when we were young.

My kids haven't found their way quite in this world yet, so I wouldn't think it would matter if I took off.
Well I guess this is to much rambling..
Anyone live in Georgia??
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   Posted 6/12/2009 9:05 AM (GMT -7)   
What part of Georgia are you thinking about moving to? I used to live just across the Savannah river in SC. Parts of Georgia are so different from other parts.

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   Posted 6/12/2009 9:09 AM (GMT -7)   
Mrs P.....Alpharetta. My folks lived in Marietta for a few years too. I like No. Georgia, haven't been that far south of Georgia yet.
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   Posted 6/12/2009 10:02 AM (GMT -7)   
Nothing can replace how important being near family is! Especially as you get up in the years, having your sister near by may be the most important thing!
You will have to get used to humidity! L.A. sure doesnt have that! But you will love the food and the fireflies in the summer :-)

I say do it! But have your sister help you get a job first!
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   Posted 6/12/2009 5:06 PM (GMT -7)   
Humidity + Fibro = PAIN, at least it does for me. I left the east coast almost 10 years ago to move out to the desert. My fibro pain is quite manageable now, I can function and do most of what I want to do. We had to go back for just over a week a few years ago and I thought I was going to die. I felt worse than I had ever felt before I moved away.

Now is probably not the time to give up a job, but since you can't move for another year, you have time to check out the job market. Some companies will let you interview over the phone so you can get hired before you move. When we moved here, there were so many openings in our fields, we weren't afraid of getting a job. It still took us about 8 weeks to go through the hiring process and actually start getting paychecks. With all the cutbacks in education these days, we can not longer be certain we'd find jobs in another city.

Don't forget about insurance coverage for the time between leaving your old job and qualifying at your new job. I ended up paying cash for 6 months supplies of my meds before I left so I'd have time to get insurance coverage and find decent doctors. I went without insurance for about 3 months, there was no way we could afford the COBRA payments and still afford to move. It was very scary but it worked out fine.

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   Posted 6/14/2009 9:24 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Lori-

Sounds like your ready for some changes in your life and this would ceretainly be a new adventure.  :-)

I am almost 53, single and have a 17 yr. old son yet at home. He has one year of high school left. I live in a 3 bedroom rambler with a huge yard. It is getting to be too much for me with fibro and the upkeep. I am going to stay if finances will allow till he finishes school, and gets on his feet, but then need to get into a townhome. I have thought long and hard too about moving south, because our winters are awful in MN. Now I have two GD's and a granddog, and family and I have realized I can't leave them. My dream now is to escape to the south a little over the winters. I know what you are going through and the thought that goes into it! Wish you the best with getting this figured out-


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   Posted 6/14/2009 11:18 AM (GMT -7)   
I'll throw my two cents worth in, even though I am not your run of the mill person. ^_^

Because of my bipolar, I've moved about 25 times in the last fifteen years - I've lived in eight different states. Up until the last move, I had at least one kid with me. This last move was unusual in that it wasn't planned and there were extenuating cercumstances (psycho ex). However, I never had money when I moved - about enough to see me through for a month usually - nor did I have a job lined up. I hardly ever had a husband/boyfriend move with me either (only once). I didn't take furniture with me, only what I could pack into my car or van - it's a lot cheaper that way. I took things that couldn't be replaced - everything else can be bought when I get to where I'm going. The one thing I *did* have was a place to stay wherever I was going - a relative or friend's house until I got on my feet. It seems you already have that. Since I worked temp most of my career, I simply signed up with the temp companies wherever I went and was soon working, if not permanently then a lot of temp jobs. Since it's been a while since I've worked temp, I don't know what that market's like anymore.

Anyway, I live my life never knowing what tomorrow will bring. I only know that if I don't try something then I'll always wonder that would have happened... I know what happens when I don't - I live the same life, and I'm still miserable. To me, life is too short to be miserable. If you're miserable - go somewhere where you think it might be different. If life is miserable there, maybe you made a mistake. But you will never know unless you try.

That's my two cents worth.
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