Stari, I have know a number of women and girls who are taught to go to the restroom to fart. Especially if they are in the kitchen or eating. One family I know never mentioned it to the males but the female children were spanked! yes, in 2009 this happens. I find it strange, but they don't. I assume the women have very strong muscles to "hold it in".
For the jealous and disbelieving family: First print out the "Love Letter to Normals" (http://www.fibromyalgiatreatment.com/letter_to_normals.htm ) and the Spoons Theory (http://www.butyoudontlooksick.com/navigation/BYDLS-TheSpoonTheory.pdf ).
Leave copies in several places where they will be easy to pick up and read. Maybe even DO the Spoons Theory with the family member who bops around in 4 inch heels while acting like she has fibro, but doing it inconsistently. It may be that she sees she truly has fibro, just hides it super well, and the heels are her refusal to give in. Seems silly to me, but it might not to her. I held and office job and did the high heels thing most days because it was required. But it wasn't worth it.
When people challenge you, or look puzzled, ask them if they have read the Love Letter and the Spoons Theory. If not, grab a copy and hand it to them.
Above all, be true to YOU. Love your family, but if you waste too much time and energy worrying about
what they think of you, then you won't be able to do as many things that are truly important.
I hope they become supportive.
SAHM, kids are the light of my life
dh of 17 yrs, my sweetie
ds 16yo, great kid, Sr. in high school
dd 13yo, my reward, homeschooled
ds 8yo, amazing kid, great magician
2 furbabies - Gracie and Capn Morgan, both cats
1 featherbaby - cockatiel - Goldi the Evil
I have always imagined paradise will be some type of library.
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