Can fibro reduce your sex-drive or make it seem less satisfying??

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   Posted 7/3/2009 7:47 PM (GMT -7)   
This may be a sensitive topic. I have noticed that I don't have much of a sex-drive. And when my hubby and I do make love, it is satisfying, but it just doesn't seem as satisfying. Is this because of the fibro? Or is it something else? I feel like I have lost one part of a connection that my husband and I have that I have always loved. What can I do?
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   Posted 7/4/2009 1:32 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm not sure about the sex drive thing. When I have a good day I'm as H----y as h--l. On my bad days I'm like "don't you dare touch me".  I know that probably didn't help

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   Posted 7/5/2009 5:05 AM (GMT -7)   

Are you on any medications for your health issues? many have 'low libido' as a side effect. Im on anti-depressants and i do NOT miss sex. im single, 29, and i realise i used to view it as a chore. i dont have NO sex drive, i have MINUS sex drive which is kinda sad at this age, but thats how it is for me. Also- i found sex painful at times because my body was just that sensitive and sore.

Sorry that wasnt as helpful as i had hoped- best of luck

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   Posted 7/5/2009 7:05 AM (GMT -7)   
I think it deinately has a bearing on it. Just the physical pain on a daily basis can wear you down and leave you in anything but a fornicating humour!!!
Meds that effect SD include, anti depressants, benzodiazapems and some others like lyrica or epillim. The side effects of all drugs vary from person to person so you need to take that into account. Codeine makes most people drowsy but makes me hyper.
If you have painful joints it's going to have an impact on you SD also. I have found fibro a very drying condition throughout the body so it makes sense that if everything isn't oiled up well it's not going to be too nice. IYKWIM!
I know my SD have suffered badly because of all this but it's just another thing to deal with in the best way you can and make changes that are right for your body.
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   Posted 7/5/2009 4:13 PM (GMT -7)   
I have noticed a difference since having Fibro...and I'm not on ANY medications. So, it must be the Fibro, because nothing else has changed.

I have found that I have push myself to start, even if I don't feel like it. about 10 minutes or so into it, I am more "in the mood". But, while before Fibro I was very often in the mood without effort, now I have to make an effort.

I also found, like you, that it is less satisfying, though my husband is wonderful and always has been. I try to focus on other areas that are satisfying...such as feeling close to my husband.

Hope this helps.


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   Posted 7/5/2009 5:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Yes, I've noticed a difference in my sex drive, not sure if it's the meds or just being in pain that has reduced it, though once PMS starts, I feel alot like a cat in heat. Even when the urge arises and I get what I want, all too often I'm right there, just about to have a great time, and it just stops, no O for me, not that it doesn't feel good, but the O just doesn't happen LOL Before I got sick I was a twice a day kind of girl, now I'm lucky if it's twice a wk. Granted, fibro affects different ppl in different ways, and I know a woman who feels like a cat in heat all day everyday who has fibro though she's 20 yrs older than I am, so to me, there's always hope.

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   Posted 7/5/2009 6:58 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm with MrsCavbar as to what happens to me. I'm on narcotics for pain and I've discovered that the further that I am from a dose, the lower the pain meds in my system, the more likely I will actually O. If it's in peak effectiveness when I most feel like playing cause I don't hurt as much, the less likely there there's going to be a "peak" moment for me. Go figure. The easier it is pain wise the less likely to achieve. lol

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   Posted 7/6/2009 7:42 PM (GMT -7)   
I use to be the one wanting it aaaaaalllll the time, but now I make time and an effort to have our time together. I think that the anti-depressant I am on has made a significant difference on my "drive". Also, when my pain level is high or I am way more tender to the touch than normal "it" ain't gonna happen.

My dh is very helpful in making my experience well worth it. :-)
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   Posted 7/7/2009 4:40 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm with Binki and others- the fibro has sapped me, and antidepressants and pain make it more "work" for me to concentrate, and more 'work" for my honey. (The fact that I'm even using the word "work" in this context is sad enough!!) The less meds for me, the better. I also became concerned about my lack of libido since this major flare started in January. I started Cymbalta again recently in combination with my other meds and yesterday at my house was like the Seinfeld "mango" episode, if anyone remembers that one :) I was happy to finally feel something again besides soreness and pain!!
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