Lousy Fibro Fog

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   Posted 7/15/2009 12:06 PM (GMT -7)   
Here is a good example of fibro fog for those of you wondering what it's like.  I have been invited to the wedding of my good friend's daughter.  The wedding is July 25th.  I got the invitation and immediately ran out and bought the wedding gift, wrapping paper, and card.
My nephew's birthday is next Tuesday and he will be 40 years old.  He married a Serbian girl and she and their two children have been in Serbia for the summer so my nephew has been here by himself.  He has been doing consulting work on the east coast of Florida.  Anyway, I wanted to have a fortieth birthday party for him this weekend.  The only other relatives we have in the area weren't able to be there this coming weekend because they are going to be out of town.  Soooo, we planned it for the next Saturday.  We called my nephew and he was soooo excited that we remembered his birthday and he won't be alone.
Well, you guessed it.  The party is on July 25th...the same as the wedding I was looking forward to going to.  I did start crying about it.  I'm so disappointed and feel so stupid.  I just got off the phone with my friend and explained what had happened.  She did laugh because she does understand my problems with the fog.  Now I'm in the process of writing a letter to her daughter to explain why I'm not able to attend her wedding.  Do I feel like a moron, or what!  I used to have a great brain...was Dean's List in college....but not anymore.  cry

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   Posted 7/15/2009 12:26 PM (GMT -7)   


You poor thing, i'm sure your friends daughter will understand but i know it's your dissappointment at missing it too.

I hate when that happens. I have to have my diary with me everyhwere and check it twice before booking anything. Now if i was really efficient i'd manage everything with a palm pod, but come on,,,with fibro fog,,,, i'd probably end up re programming it into another language or something.


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   Posted 7/15/2009 12:34 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm sorry Sherrine. I really miss my brain, too. It used to be highly functional. It's so frustrating when those brain farts happen. LOL Fortunately those who love us understand and don't hold it against us!

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   Posted 7/15/2009 1:00 PM (GMT -7)   

You meant well in both cases. YOu planned to give a gift and a party to the people you love You were thoughtful in both cases so please do not beat yourself up over this. I like to think that you are so busy contributing to other's happiness that exact dates can be easily forgotten in the excitement. I wish I had an aunt and/or friend like you nearby.


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   Posted 7/15/2009 1:04 PM (GMT -7)   
Of all the things I've lost I miss my mind the most!

haha ... the Fog makes me look bad ... especially when I used to forget my own name or what I'm supposed to say when answering the phone

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   Posted 7/15/2009 1:19 PM (GMT -7)   

When my body is hurting or burning, I can rest, use my heating pad, do some stretches, etc. BUT when my brain goes on vacation, all I can do is sit here and wait for the post cards. lol. I know how annoying it can be when we forget something and schedule another event for that time period. I used to be able to remember every little thing, now I need to be by my calendar to schedule anything.

You are not stupid, you are just blessed w/ Fibro Fog, like the rest of us. At least your friend understands, and the letter to her daughter will be understood in the same way. Don't beat yourself up, there is probably a reason this happened, you just don't know it YET. 

So... what time should we all get there for the party??? We haven't had a party in awhile, and your house is always a fun spot for a get together. Warn, um, I mean, tell the neighbors we're on our way.  devil

Seriously, it will turn out well. Just see how excited your nephew is that he won't be alone, but w/ ppl that love him. You are a good aunt!

God bless.  Alice.

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   Posted 7/15/2009 1:54 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks, everyone.  I really appreciate your comments.  I did finish the letter to the bride-to-be and I'll be going out to lunch with my friend tomorrow.  I'll give her the gift so she can take it to her daughter's wedding. 
Alice, I'll be planning a party for all of us in a couple of weeks.  But, my cousin (the one that is out of town this weekend) has a beach house on Madeira Beach.  So, the party is going to be there and my daughter and I are bringing the jet ski.  My nephew is so excited about this and it sure is a great way to be celebrating his birthday.  I just wish it wasn't the same day as the wedding. 
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   Posted 7/15/2009 2:17 PM (GMT -7)   

Did you say 'party?'  Oh boy!  I'll be bringing Lockjaw, Pee pants, Horsebreath and the cannon.  I'm sure your cousin will love these boys.  Just hide everything that is shiny.

Oh wait.  That's the week-end of my class reunion.  Nevermind.

Fibro Fog?  I hauled about 100 pounds of trash to the street this morning and garbage pick up is tomorrow.  Duh.



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   Posted 7/15/2009 4:25 PM (GMT -7)   
Speaking of trash and fibro fog... I have been having very bad pain since Saturday, in addition to fog. I get my med refills by mail from my hospital, timed to arrive a couple days or so before the current meds run out. Well, I was excited to get my new meds Saturday. I still had a few days so I set the little bag they arrived in in the kitchen. Monday I cleaned the kitchen and put the trash on the front porch ready to haul. Last night I was so sore I was crying, and couldn't for the life of me find the med refills. I had to stay home from work today because of pain, but I did think to open all 7 trash bags on the porch, where I found my meds, intact in their little mailer, though covered in coffee grounds and chicken grease! "The Day I Threw Away my Meds."
Sherrine, please don't stress over your decision. I'm sure your loved ones understand. It sounds like they have a loving aunty and friend!

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   Posted 7/15/2009 4:25 PM (GMT -7)   
Why don't you just ask the bride to postpone her wedding one week?

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   Posted 7/16/2009 8:00 AM (GMT -7)   
Sherrine you don't have to explain the fact your brain doesn't work to me. devil But you did remind me that I have got to call my best friend from high school and tell her that we aren't going to make it to her 40th anniversary party on the 25th. I feel really bad about that too. The plan was to go to the party in Wisconsin and then to Montana from there but that isn't happening right now. She knew it depended on how I was feeling at the time. Anytime someone invites me to anything I always tell them it depends on how I am feeling when the time comes, cause with fibro we just don't know.
It was a honest mistake so don't beat yourself up about it. Maybe you can watch the wedding video with your friend when things settle down after the wedding. Won't be like being there but .................
If I didn't keep my pocket calendar right beside my computer along with my bill paying card for the month I would never make it to anything and would be living on the street cause no bills would get paid.
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   Posted 7/16/2009 8:21 AM (GMT -7)   
What a bummer Sherrine. I feel your frustration. But, good to hear your going to see your friend for lunch and the letter to the bride was really thoughtful.

You have a very enjoyable time at the party for your nephew. Be safe with the Jet ski!
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